- 7 years ago
- Wedding: May 2011
Several years ago, before we were engaged, we were at FH’s dad’s house for the weekend. His childhood bestfriend and his soon-to-be wife came over and we BBQed and went swimming and such. It was a good time and my first time meeting these two. They were in the midst of wedding planning and Fiance asked if we’d be invited so we could make sure we were available that weekend since during the summer we usually had jobs or internships planned. The friend’s fiancee said “Oh of course! Silly, you’ll be IN the wedding!” which i guess was their way of informally asking my FH to be a groomsman. Weeks…months…go by and we haven’t heard anything but we had been very busy and they hadn’t set a date yet when we spoke to them last so we weren’t too concerned about it.
One day, i’m browsing facebook and “Whoa!!!! FH!! Did you know Childhood-Best-Friend and CBF’s FW got married???” “What???” Yea…they had posted pictures on facebook and some comment about “yay we’re married now!” We were shocked! So suddenly FH goes from being IN the wedding to not even being told the wedding was taking place?
I’m not so much annoyed/irked/offended for him that they didn’t stick with him being a groomsman. These two aren’t wildly close anymore and I was actually a little surprised that they had informally asked him because they haven’t really kept in touch. To be perfectly honest, i’m not even annoyed that after telling FH he was in the wedding party that they didn’t even invite him. That said…they DID ask him (in a way) and they DID flaunt their wedding plans in front of us all weekend. Then…they DID go off and get married without even TELLING HIM! THAT’S the part that *really* bothers me! I understand there are budgets and venue limitations on guests and maybe they changed their minds and just wanted a small intimiate affair (from the pictures it did look pretty small. Maybe 50ish-75 people?). But instead of calling him and saying “hey man sorry things have changed and we’re not going to be able to invite you” they just completely forgot about him.
Since they were CBFs, FH still wants to invite him to our wedding. I’m mostly fine with that, except that he has tried a number of times to get their new address and they’ve ignored him repeatedly. I’m ready to be done with them.
It just boggles my mind how they can be so rude as to “include” him as a groomsman and not even tell him about the wedding. THEN when he asks for their address so we can invite them to ours, they completely ignore him.
Sorry, i just really wanted to rant about that a bit. I just can’t believe how inconsiderate they are!
sorry…i’m done now.