- Miss Fish
- 8 years ago
- Wedding: December 2011
I’ve always loved the idea of heirloom engagement rings, but unfortunately no one in my (or my boyfriend’s) family has started this tradition. As far as I knew, my family had no antique rings.
Until today. I was going through my jewlery box today when I discovered this baby:
When my great grandmother died, she selected one ring from her collection for each of her granddaughters. Because I was so young at the time, I had no idea about this! It was simply in a box with about 20 other rings. I fell in LOVE! I am seriously considering the idea of making it an engagement ring. There are just a few problems:
1) It’s mostly yellow gold, and I generally only wear white gold. Would you consider getting it plated in rhodium? I know it would have to be re-done frequently, but I think it would be worth it to get the look I want.
2) I would like it to be set with a new center diamond. Would you do this? I know some of you have heirloom stones, but what about an heirloom setting with a new stone? What did you do with the old stone?
3) My boyfriend has been adamant that he wants to surprise me with a ring that I’ll love- which I don’t doubt, but I tend to have expensive tastes, and seeing as he’s finishing up college right now he doesn’t really have the money to do that (but regardless of when we get engaged, we are waiting until I graduate college to get married. Personal rule of ours). Plus, this ring has the potential to be everything I ever wanted- unique, classic, sentimental, and gorgeous!
A) Change the metal and/or center stone for use in an engagement ring? Have any of you done this? If so, how do I convince him this is what I want?
B) Accept the ring as-is and keep it for my right hand, for use only occasionally since I don’t usually wear yellow gold?
C) Make the alteration in metal and wear it frequently, but on my right hand?
D) Tell him I would like those alterations made for an anniversary in the future so that he can still get me the ring he wants to get me without him feeling like he “cheated.”
AH SO MANY OPTIONS! Advice would be wonderful.