(Closed) Possible proposal Saturday?! Excited, BUT really bad timing. Do I say anything?

posted 6 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
5977 posts
Bee Keeper

Say nothing and let him do it when he wants to! This would be after J’s wedding right? I don’t think you’ll be stealing anyone’s thunder by getting engaged after their wedding. She gets one day!

Post # 4
2695 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2008

nope, don’t say anything to him.  a good friend will be THRILLED for you and would never even think of you stealing the spotlight.  And believe me, you won’t .  people will be focused on the bride & groom, not a newly engaged couple.

Post # 5
2401 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

If you’re that worried, wait a couple days before announcing it.

Post # 6
4464 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

Do not say anything to your soon to be fiance at all. Don’t put these brides before him – let him do this proposal when and how he wants. If these women would be so crippled with jealousy that you had the nerve to get engaged around the same time that good things were happening for them, then they aren’t very good friends. 

Post # 8
264 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I would be more worried about not being able to enjoy the weekend alone with SO after he proposed rather than stealing anyone else’s spotlight. It’s not like he’ll be proposing during anyone else’s ceremony or reception so I don’t think you’d be stealing anyone’s sptolight.

Don’t say anything – he’ll do what feels right and it it’s Saturday then you have every right to be happy and excited about your own proposal, and the brides will be happy for you too 🙂


Post # 9
414 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I think that you should let him do what he has planned.  You wouldnt be taking away their spotlight at all!! Just relax and enjoy!

Post # 10
2606 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

As long as you are sure he’s not planning to propse AT (or the day of) the wedding, then there’s no big deal.  If you’re afraid he might do it at the wedding, say something  like, “Ohmygosh, I just read on the Weddingbee that some guy propsed at a wedding! The bride was really disapointed.  How rude is that?!  He should have waited for a more private time for the sake of his girlfriend AND the bridal couple!”

Post # 11
2204 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

@Sunchick19:  Totally agree.

You will not be stealing anyone’s spotlight (IF he proposes this weekend) and I’m sorry, but I’m a firm believer that you don’t get to dictate when a proposal is “good” for you…let the guy do his thing! It’s like the one thing they do, let him have his moment uninterrupted by your concerns about other weddings.

And what if he doesn’t propose this weekend? This is going to sound harsh but maybe try not to get your hopes up??

Post # 12
1175 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

Nope, I wouldn’t say anything. He’s got a plan, let him execute it as he wants to! Just relax, enjoy the wedding and if he proposes, great!! If not, have fun, enjoy his company and a nice dinner!

Post # 13
1035 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I wouldn’t say anything either. I got engaged a week before my friends’ wedding and they were nothing but happy for us. It’s not like your SO is proposing AT the wedding. THAT would be stealing the spotlight, if you ask me. Let him do his thing 🙂

Post # 14
595 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Let him do what he wants. It sounds like he is nOt thinking about proposing at the wedding so I dont see any problem with it. I wouldn’t worry about anyone else. 

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