(Closed) Possible to love a family member but not like them?

posted 6 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2019

I can, with several issues I have had with my sister, a lot of the time I love her but don’t like her.

Post # 4
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2013 - Upstate NY

I truly do not like my sister. I love her, but she’s just such a mean person. She lives 1,000 miles away and most of my family is very glad of that fact!! It’s just easier without her in my life.

Post # 5
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

Truthfully how I feel about my mother and step-father most of the time and this wedding planning has not made it any easier

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

This isn’t as extreme as many situations, but if I weren’t related to my brother and just met him at a party or something, I would probably find him boring and a little closed-minded. And I’m guessing he would find me impulsive and flakey. I actually do like him, but we really don’t have anything in common and he’s not someone I would’ve choosen to spend time with otherwise.

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

I feel this way about most of my family.

Post # 8
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

Yeah.. I think that is pretty normal when it comes to family.  I think you can love someone but that doesn’t mean you always like them. 

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

thats the way i feel about my neice (also my maid of honor :/) i love her but dont really like her at all shes snobby,rude and thinkshes entitled.

Post # 10
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

You’re a better person than I am… I honestly don’t love some of my family members. 

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I am this same exact way with my sister. Also, my dad sometimes. I love them dearly becuase they are my family, but who they are as people is a little hard to accept at times. But I guess thats just part of being a family.

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

I pretty much feel this way with most of my family.

Post # 13
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2018

I feel the same way about my mom and brother. My mom needs to get over the fact that none of us like each other. She thinks since we’re family we need to stick together. Um, sorry, I don’t enjoy being called names, treated like shit, and beat up all my young years by my brother. If I ever need anything, I’d ask my Fiance. I’d rather be family-less and happy.  All my brother does is complain, scream, and call names when he’s around (he’s 31, mind you) but my mom always takes his side and says that I need to work things out with him.  No thanks.  I wish my dad were alive bc he was the only normal one.

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

You’re definitely not alone.  I feel very lucky that I love and like my immediate family (siblings and parents) but there are certainly some aunts that I really don’t like as people.  They are callus, rude, close minded and very difficult to be around.

Post # 15
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013 - The bride's hometown United Methodist Church near Kalamazoo

I think learning to love someone and not neccessarily like them or support what they do is an important part of growing up and being human, in my opinion. I love my family unconditionally, but there are behaviors and choices they make that I do not neccesarily like, agree with, or tolerate. There have been periods in time where I could barely be in the same room as my sister (luckily, that was years ago, while we were growing up, and now we’re quite close)! No matter what, I’ve always loved her, but liking her has been a different story! 

Post # 16
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I feel this way about my brother.  While I love him and certainly don’t wish harm upon him, I’m also hoping I don’t see him over Christmas.  He is not a good person by any stretch of the imagination and he has put my mom and step father (who have been more than patient and generous with him) through a world of heartache and hurt since as long as I can remember.  I do not like him in the slightest sense of the word.

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