Post # 1
Hello, recently engaged and new to Wedding Bee!
I got engaged about a month ago and have been super efficient getting everything planned for the big day next December. Popped along to a dress sale at a weddind fayre over the weekend and walked away with a bargain of a dress. But after I slept on it, I started to worry that it just wasn’t me. I’ve almost forgotten what it looks like and how I felt in it and now I’m worried I fell more in love with the price than the dress. HOWEVER, I’m sure there’s plenty of room to alter the dress to make it something I’ll love, particularly as it comes with a cobweb lace cape. It’s this one (Benjamin Roberts 2405) –
I have a few ideas of what I’d like to do, I’m just not sure if they’re possible, particularly as I’d really like to lower the back neckline (it has a zip overlayed by buttons).
I’m thinking something either like this…
Or like this…
Or like this…
Any thoughts on what I can/can’t do? Especially regarding lowering the back? Any help would be much appreciated…this bloomin’ dress is all I have though about for the last 4 days! It’s even keeping me awake at night =/
Post # 2
aelizabethw: You have options. I think your dress is beautiful though. You could do just a topper that you could take on and off without having to alter your dress like the one below…
Plus that would probably save you a lot more money than getting it altered to the way those dresses show.
This top is available at BHLDN.com
Post # 3
From what I understand you can lower the back of a dress – a bridal shop suggested I do that to one I was on the fence about – you probably would need something added to the top the help the dress stay up though. The amount of boning the dress would require would probably be substantial if you made it low-back to your waist and kept it strapless. I do know it is also pretty easy to add little sleeves like those you like though.
Honestly, the dress you got is VERY different from those you like – if you sleep on it and are still that “meh” about it, I would resell the dress you got (hopefully recouping most of the cost if you got a great deal) and buy something else.
Post # 4
All of the dresses you showed are not strapless. This is by design. A dress with such a low back cannot be held up securely without straps. Not that low, anyways. I would add straps if you want the back that low.
Post # 5
Sorry, should have been clearer! It’s not just the low back I’m interested in changing, I’d like to use the cape that comes with the dress to add sleeves details or pretty straps or…something…I’m just not sure.
Thanks for BHLDN suggestion Keandro! =)
Post # 6
I think the dress you got is beautiful, but I see what you mean by wanting to add something to the shoulders. The first idea you posted would go well with the dress, and looks like it might not be super costly. Check out etsy for boleros and see what pops up. Or find a good seamstress and ask for an opinion using the cape you have. If you find what you are looking for, you might decide not to lower the back like you intend. Adding to the shoulders might give it that little extra to make it what you are looking for.
Post # 7
If you deepen the back that much you will definitely need to have straps sewn on because keeping it strapless the dress will not be able to support itself. Perhaps use the cape coming with the dress and have the seamstress construct you new straps, sounds like it maybe pricey though but if the dress was under your budget then go for it just make sure you see a seamstress who is good with custom work.
Post # 8
Thanks for all your help ladies. I’m thinking that the easiest thing would be to add a little lace trim all around the neckline so it isn’t so polished and add off-the-shoulder gathered sleeves using the cobweb lace cape. So it would (hopefully) look a little like this…
Would that work? Any thoughts or suggestions more than welcome =) Thanks