Post # 1
- Wedding: March 2018 - TBD
So Im trying to find out if my mom is being controlling or not. I told her that my Fiance wants to pay for our very possibly expensive wedding (30k) And my mom got very very mad and insulted by it. I told her she could help out but he and I both know that my parents and his are hurting financially right now.
My fear is the wedding ideas that the Fiance and I have.. well some of them are a bit off beat and geeky. (it reflects who we are) and my very tradition mother doesnt like it, also he and i are planning this together. which she doesnt like already. She wants it me be MY day. And I want it to be OUR day.
Post # 3
her feeling insulted and hurt is not being controlling.
unless she is actually DOING something or bullying you into making the decisions she wants, you don’t seem to have a problem.
Post # 4
My mom used things like you said to guilt me into everything. I say stick to your guns and pay for your day… I wish I would have. Good Luck!
Post # 5
We had concerns about the same thing – we have had to be firm to incorporate our very offbeat and very geeky ideas into our day. My mother responded to firmness and reminders that it is OUR celebration (and her contribution should be an unconditional gift), but you know your mom best. We have run into issues with my parents upping the budget only on items that are important to them.