(Closed) Possibly giving up my cats.

posted 4 years ago in Pets
Post # 46
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Blushing bee

Yeah, I wouldn’t give up my kitties. I would rather give up my mother in law 😉

Post # 47
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2016

I would never give up my cats. To them, I am their whole world and all they know. I would feel terrible if I gave them up and feel like I failed them. Do what you feel is right in your heart and work something out there must be something else you can do rather than give up your babies?

Post # 48
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2014

Can your Future Mother-In-Law just not be around you while you do laundry? And she doesn’t need to come visit since she’s so close. I mean, if it was just on the clothes you were wearing she would’ve said something by now. Because I’m sure you’ve had many visits with her? I’d keep my cats. My mom is allergic to my dogs and she just doesn’t spend much time at my house. She lives far away and comes for longer stays. She stays at a hotel.

Post # 49
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2016

Id responsibly rehome them. 

Post # 50
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2018

See I look at this from the other side. My parents had to give up their pets because my brother is VERY allergic. All animals (and I mean ALL, there is no such thing as a hypoallergenic dog for him) so I never really had pets. 

My grandparents had a dog though, big furry one. I can’t even count how many family dinners and holidays my brother spent sitting on the front porch eating dinner because it made him too sick to be in the house. Eventually once we were older my mom would host, but when we were kids/had no money it wasn’t an option. He would eventually end up outside and then we would all leave.

It drove a permanent wedge between my parents and my grandparents because when their dog passed they got ANOTHER even furrier dog. We never see them because it made my brother too sick to go there, we essentially have no relationship with them at all and they only live 20 minutes away. 

Post # 51
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Newbee
  • Wedding: December 2011

Hugs Bee, I know this is a tough situation for you and everyone involved including your cats. Personally I would never give up any of my pets for anyone, I would find other solutions. I agree that maybe you could visit Mother-In-Law instead of her coming into your house and if she did stop by, sit outside weather permitting. As far as the laundry goes, maybe you could go to a laundry mat to wash your clothes and if possible, bring them to MIL’s house to dry. That way the cloths are free of cat hair and you are saving some money by not paying to dry your cloths at the laundrymat. Best of luck on whatever decision you feel is the best 🙂

Post # 52
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2016

Sounds like you found the perfect Mother-In-Law repellant lol, j/k. But no, dont give up your cats. 

Post # 53
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

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rabbitgirl:  I wouldn’t give up my cats. Animals are a commitment and your Mother-In-Law has to understand that. She is not living with you. There are ways to get around this. She does not HAVE to be in the house, so keep your cats.

Post # 54
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2012

i’d offer to pay for her allergy shots and build a nice little patio.  🙂  

no way my babies would be going anywhere.

Post # 55
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2012

FYI – I do a lot of animal rescues and just so you know, most shelters put owner surrenders down the day they are brought in.  they aren’t required to hold them at all.  if you HAVE to give them up (which it doesn’t look like you do), please go through a rescue group, not a shelter.

Post # 56
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Helper bee

I think you should talk to your Mother-In-Law about this, see how she feels about the situation.  Hopefully, she’ll tell you she thinks it would be ridiculous for you to give up your cats and that it’s no problem for you guys to visit at their house.

Post # 57
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Helper bee

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rabbitgirl:  Of course you’re not a bad person. I have 2 cats, brothers from the same litter also had them since they were born and they are 5 years old now. My SO and I live together as of recently and he is also mildly allergic. Allergy pills help and he’s looking into getting an allergy shot. Although we discussed the possibility of giving them up I did tell him that I likely just can’t. I love them. I’ve always lived alone my whole adult life and they have been my companions and little guards. I can’t imagine giving them up or anyone loving them as much as I do. They are family to me.

What we did to try to make it better is thoroughly clean, sanitize and vacuum the place which included replacing couches that I’d had for a while and I’m sure had cat hair and dander because I had them since my very first cat (who was elderly and had to be put down due to uncurable sickness). I have a HEPA air purifier and I will be getting a second/larger one. I also have a HEPA vacuum cleaner and I vacuum almost daily now. One of my cats used to sleep at the foot of my bed and now we don’t allow them in the room at night. They have to sleep outside in their own bed, although we do let them in the room during the day when we’re home.

So far, these changes have been working out. I love my cats so much, they’ve been with me for years and I can’t imagine ever giving them up. I will take care of them until the end of their natural life, or mine. I even told my Mom I want them to take my cats in if anything ever happened to me. That’s how much I love them. Hope our story helps.

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