- 6 years ago
- Wedding: August 2014 - Traverse City
When we first got engaged, we discussed whether or not to have a 1 or 2 year engagement, mostly due to money reasons. We are a younger couple (both 22) and footing most the bill ourselves. Fiance was set on just a one year engagement, because he wanted to get married sooner than later.
Well it’s 5 months later and exactly just 10 more months to the wedding. Things have come up financially that we just didn’t expect. We were both super broke over the summer so we didn’t have any wiggle room to save. At his current job his paychecks aren’t quite as much as he anticipated. Basically, with the current estimated cost of the wedding, it will be nearly impossible to save all that in the next 10 months…and I keep forgetting to calculate in all the tiny details that add up! It’s getting stressful because any time I want to go on a date or do something fun, in the back of my mind I feel stressed and guilty because I keep thinking “we have to save for the wedding”.
The other day he mentioned pushing it back to give us more time to save. At first I was really sad, because plans have already begun, and everyone knows when it’s happening, bridal party is picked out, etc. But at the same time, do we just struggle and stress for the next year?? I wouldn’t have been sad if a 2 year engagement was what we had originally decided, but now that I’ve already been counting down, pushing it back was hard to come to terms with….
But now, I’m thinking it might be a great idea. I am actually so RELIEVED. We have already book our venue, but I’m sure it’s early enough to change the date without losing the deposit. I am also currently in graduate school, so planning a wedding on top of all my school work is stressful. I graduate in about a year, so beginning January 2014 I will be able to contribute to wedding savings, not just FI! Financial wedding stress is something that crosses my mind every day! I don’t want us to struggle to make ends meet for the next 10 months. I want to be able to enjoy our engaged life! And you know, I was getting sad that in 10 months our engagement would already be over with. So maybe this really is for the best 🙂
As hard as it was at first to come to terms with the possibility of moving it from 8/23/13 to 8/23/14, now I realize it will lift such a burden off our shoulders–we can have the wedding of our dreams without stressing and just enjoy our engagement, our relationship, each other!
Has anyone else decided to postpone their wedding due to finances? How did you “break the news” to family/friends/wedding party? Was it pretty early on, or did you already have vendors? Just interested in others’ experience!