- 5 years ago
- Wedding: July 2012
Okay so here is the back story:
I met “C” back in undergrad. We were both Psych majors and had a ton of classes together. We hit it off right away and had GREAT chemistry and instantly became like best friends.
Her boyfriend and my boyfriend clicked really well to so we all decided to get a house together. Literally right after we all signed the contract together she broke up with her boyfriend and got together with a different guy, which was really frustrating because she wanted old boyfriend out and new boyfriend in… and we didn’t really know, or like, the new guy.
Thing go on, she realizes new guy is a TOTAL freak, and after putting us through months of hell ilving with him she breaks up with him and he moves out.
A year later we all end up moving to a different city. She is working at a psych hospital and so is boyfriend (DH now). She compains about not knowing ANYONE in the city, but everytime I try to hang out she flakes. This goes on for months, and then she decides she wants to be super close again.
She gets a new GOOD boyfriend gets knocked up and is getting married and I am a bridesmaid. I am engaged at this point and she was going to be one of two maids of honor. She has baby, gets post partum and drops out of the wedding. Then she wants back in the wedding cause she gets on meds. Then she drops out again because she doesn’t want to buy the bridesmaids dress.
So this WHOLE hot and cold routine goes on for a few more years. And I keep going with it, because when we DO hang out it is REALLY fun!
Today she told me to come over at noon to have lunch. I go over and she doesn’t answer, I call and text her mutliple times and she doesn’t answer.
This is a girl who has tried to kill herself before and has depression, so I wait for a while before I go home and freak out. I am planning on calling her husband to let him know what is going on and I let her know she needs to call me by 1 or I am calling him because I am worried.
She texts me RIGHT before I am about to call her husband… (so an HOUR after we were supposed to hang out) and said that she set an alarm for 10 am and it didn’t go off…
I am hurt and angry and TIRED that I keep putting so much effort into this relationship and I constantly worry about her, and she can’t even wake up to have LUNCH with me?
What do you guys think? Kudos for reading all this.