(Closed) Possibly time to call of friendship?

posted 5 years ago in Relationships
  • poll: End the Friendship?
    Drop her like a bad habit : (16 votes)
    76 %
    She seems like she might need you still.... : (5 votes)
    24 %
  • Post # 3
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    1332 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    She needs to find balance in her life and that is a journey she needs to do on her own, you cannot help much, but you can support her.  However, do what you feel is the right thing to do for the friendship, if it is taking too much out of you back off and give what you can. 

    Post # 4
    Member
    540 posts
    Busy bee

    Maybe irrelevant,  but how old is her kid now and where was it while the house could have been burning down around her while she sleeps?

    I have a friend who is somewhat like this, she flakes out on everything. I just learned to expect it and have back up plans, like “me-time” when she cancels. It doesn’t really change our friendship. I just do not ever, ever cancel anything or rearrange my schedule to accommodate plans with her.

    Post # 6
    Member
    3429 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    First off, you sound like a great friend! I don’t know if I’d call it off, but I would definitely throttle back. I just think it’s plain old rude to do what she did today. I doubt her excuse…when my daughter was 1, she never slept past 7:00! We all lead busy lives, If I took time out of my day to meet with someone for lunch it’d be a miracle Lol!! For her to waste your time is shitty, IMO.  

     

    Post # 7
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    42 posts
    Newbee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    Sounds le she takes more than she gives, which is passive agressive. I wouldnt schedule nothing with her its a waste of your Time. I have a weird flaky friend too, she is always a no call or something but its not me personally, she is like that with everyone. I just take her with a grain of salt. 

    Post # 8
    Member
    183 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    Sounds like she has a couple of demons she needs to deal with.  I think you should continue to provide support when necessary, but I wouldn’t go out of your way for her.  Just let her know you’re there for when she’s headed in the right directioni or if she needs help to get there.

    Post # 9
    Member
    3053 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: February 2015

    Honestly, if your reason for keeping a friendship is “seems like she might still need me”…you don’t need to keep the friendship. You don’t keep a friendship because 1 person needs the other, it should be mutual. I personally could not deal with all the ups & downs though…I would probably stay in touch lightly, but not close at all.

    Post # 11
    Member
    522 posts
    Busy bee

    @Day_In_The_Life:   & @SagHarborBride:+1,000

    I’d suggest telling her that you worry about her and hope that she is taking her meds correctly for her sake and for her daughter’s sake. And if the meds aren’t working then she needs to switch them up or something.

    Kudos to you for always trying to be there. Just remember that you and your Darling Husband have to come first. I think just being there and letting her know that you want her to get better is really the most you should do at this point. She has to do the heavy lifting and start working towards getting better!

     

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