Post # 1
We recently got news that our officiant is having a baby due around the day of our wedding, and we’ve been trying to come up with a replacement. We’d really like it to be someone we know, rather than hiring a stranger. Our #1 candidate is one of my BMs… a very close childhood friend of mine, and has spent lots of time with Fiance, too. She’s an excellent speaker and I’m sure she would do a great job.
But what do I do about bridesmaid photos? I really wanted her to be in them, but if she becomes officiant, she probably shouldn’t be in them, right? And if I do include her in the bridesmaid photos, I don’t think she should dress the same as the other BMs, but if she dresses differently, she might look like the MOH? Or should I just include her in the pix with bridesmaids AND groomsmen, but not in the bridesmaids-only pix?
Post # 3
Why not do a “real” bridesmaids only pic and then do one with your friend as well? I’d say to include her, and I think that’s a great way because you get the best of both! 🙂
Post # 4
I don’t see why you would exclude her. My best guy friend is reading our ceremony and will be included in groomsmen photos. Most officiants wear a robe over their clothes. Let her do that while wearing the Bridesmaid or Best Man dress under it and then just take it off and on for photos.
Post # 5
i would make her officiant/honorary bm. have her coordinate but not match the other bms. i would definitely still include her in the bm pictures…you’re not demoting her.
Post # 6
Yeah, you guys are right. It would be weird to NOT have her in the pix.
I also thought I’d share FI’s take on the issue:
BEING AN OFFICIANT IS A PROMOTION!!!
STILL ABLE TO FUNCTION AS BRIDESMAID!
PLEASE UNDERSTAND THIS!
PLEASE TREAT SAM AS A BRIDESMAID IN EVERY CAPACITY!!!
PLEASE, PLEASE, PLEASE
LOL that’s that, then! Thanks, guys, for the ideas on how to make it work 🙂
Post # 7
I am thinking about doing this, too!! Neither of us belong to a church and my best friend, who would normally be one of 2 MOHS, is an excellent speaker. Like, when we were in high school she was State Speech Champion. That kind of excellent. This really helped me out too, guys! Thanks!