Post # 31
My original e-ring/a-band, double row of graduated diamonds, 1tcw, 14k yg, that didn’t stack as well as I’d prefer, and with our 6mm wide w-bands, it was “too much” for my finger so I had to wear them on separate hands. My upgrade is a single row a-band/e-ring, graduated rubies and diamonds, 1tctw, 14k yg shank with wg setting and stacks nicely. The hubs has offered to upgrade to larger carat weight and I’ve refused; I’d miss this one. I just keep showing him other a-bands that I like, and he gets them for me. I stack whatever I feel like on whatever day.
eta: we went with rubies/diamonds because of a Bible verse about a good wife and her value being far above rubies (my hubs is such a sweetie) and I really like the colored stones look, anyway.
Post # 32
I agree. I don’t think I personally would even consider an upgrade but when someone else gets one…or two…or three…I never think, “B*tch doesn’t appreciate her man!!”, I simply think, “Great, let’s see the new beauty!!”. It’s like when someone upgrades their car. They might be able to afford a more expensive one, it may be that they have decided their old car wasn’t really suitable for their lifestyle/environment or perhaps their taste in cars has changed from when they bought their other one. Sh*t happens.
Post # 33
Some people don’t feel that their wedding ring is “Just a ring”. Whether people agree with the upgrade idea or not, they’re both opinions, and one isn’t more right than the other. People have differing views on many things, that’s part of life. People disagree on the bee constantly. Just like you don’t understand what the big deal is about upgrading, others do think changing rings is a big deal. No matter how many times opposing views are voiced, they likely won’t change anyone’s mind. Each person just has to do what works for their household.
Post # 34
Oh, and for those Bees who wonder about people who keep adding to their sparklies’ collection or w-ring collection: Forever ring? What’s a forever ring?I’ve got a forever guy, and he can keep giving me as many tokens of affection as he wants. ijs
Post # 35
This thread is going south real fast
Post # 36
I hope not, Chaedra. I’d like to think that we Bees will just take different opinions as simply that, just different. Nothing personal.
I captured a link to an article where a fashionista discussed her chaging up her rings. I think it’s fitting for here: http://youlookfab.com/2011/01/25/my-wedding-ring-confession/
Post # 37
Original – half carat solitaire in a plain cathedral setting
Upgrade: same center stone in a dainty three-stone pave setting. I’m really happy with our choice.
Post # 39
Oh dear, I hope not. I hope everyone just lets this thread be about the rings themselves, and not the beliefs behind why people do/do not upgrade.
Live and let live, to each her own gals!
Post # 40
I wore my engagement ring for about 10 years and loved it. It was a princess cut solitaire in a cathedral mounting. I had 2 identical wedding bands on each side of the solitaire. I quit wearing the bands years ago because they were hollow underneath and trapped moisture and it would cause my fingers to crack and peel. So I only wore my solitaire. Last May I had to get my solitaire cut off, so we reset the diamond. We went to the mall immediately after getting it cut off and picked out a mounting in the 2nd store we went in. I hadn’t been planning on “upgrading” and hadn’t been looking or have any ideas of what I wanted. i loved the mounting, but when I received it, it looked ridiculous. the diamond sat up above the halo and not in it at all. So we returned it. we went to a family owned jewelry store and bought a new halo. my diamond still did not look great in the new mounting but I was sick of dealing with it, so we kept it. Unfortunately within a few months we found out that one of the reasons we had to get my ring cut off was because I had developed dishydrotic eczema, and after wearing white gold for 10 years, I could no longer wear it. so my new ring I just got, I couldn’t wear. We traded in everything at that point. I didn’t get a much larger stone. We went from a 1.71 to a 1.8. But got a better color and a round instead of a princess cut. We decided on a 6 prong solitaire mounting at the time. One reason was to see if my skin tolerated platinum before spending lots of money on a mounting, and the other reason being that my 2 previous halos that were badly done left me stressed out. I wore the platinum solitaire mounting for about 3 months without it bothering my skin, so we tried doing a halo again. This time I am in love and its platinum so I should have no further issues. Long story, but I would have never considered upgrading, but after getting mine cut off, it just happened. And the. Different issues arising caused for me to switch several times this year. But I am done and happy!
Post # 41
- Wedding: March 2014 - Chicago, IL
Gorgeous! Love the new ring!
Post # 43
I already posted photos of my rings on the first page, but I just wanted to write about why I did an “upgrade”. I was married before and had a gorgeous wedding ring that I kept when we divorced. Later, when I met my now-husband and I knew that we were going to someday get married, and trying to keep us out of debt, I handed him that ring and told him to sell it when he was ready to buy me an engagement ring. And thats what he did. While I did love that first ring that he ‘bought’, I admit that I had a sort of an uncomfortable stigma to it and it kind of felt like a gift from my ex. Recently, my husband surprised me with my new “upgrade”. He explained that he wanted to get me a ring on his own accord, with his own money- one without any ‘help’ from my ex. So, see? I definitely wasn’t trying to upgrade my husband 🙂
Post # 44
what is the mm width of your cathedral solitarie? Love both your rings! 🙂
Post # 45
All the rings are beautiful. Please let’s just keep this thread about showing off pretty rings! I want to admire pictures of sparkly rings!