(Closed) Post-ceremony photo shoot privacy

posted 9 years ago in Photos/Videos
Post # 3
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2009

I think that in addition to having your officiant help, why don’t you enlist and wedding party members/ushers to also help wrangle people.  We’re hoping for a few minutes alone too, but I’m pretty sure our guests will be more than willing to help us out with that one.  Plus, we have 160 acres to work with!

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I’ve thought about this too. We’ll be doing a few private pictures right after the ceremony inside, before our family and bridal party pictures. That way, everyone will be making their way to the reception and we’ll be hidden away.

For you, you could either simply have your best man or maid of honor act as a "guard", if any guests try to interrupt or take a bunch of photos. That way they can be the bad guy, not you! All they will have to say is, "Hey, Bride and Groom are having a private photo shoot right now, but they’ll make sure to talk and get some photos with you at the reception. The sooner they’re done here, the sooner the party can start!" People will respect that and enjoy watching from a reasonable distance.

If you aren’t okay with people watching whatsoever, you could go to another picturesque location for your couple photo shoot. However, this could take a lot of time, so if your reception is early in the day, consider doing it after. Or, you could do it the next day – I know Avocado did this. It’s like a trash the dress session without trashing your dress!

Post # 5
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

Yeah, we had followers.  ๐Ÿ™  My Father-In-Law and Mother-In-Law followed us around for the first 15-20 minutes of private picture time; then my dad and my nephew came over for the last 5 minutes or so.  It was kinda distracting, honestly.  And not as romantic/private as I would have liked.

Are you more concerned about immediate family members (like what happened to us)?  Or random guests like extended family and friends?  If the latter, I would just make sure you have some kind of entertainment for the cocktail hour.  Keep the guests entertained (booze and food are always great, but maybe also live music or some kind of informal activity) and they won’t have time to "crash" your photo session.   

If it’s family you’re worried about, I really don’t have any advice, seeing as we had family follow us around during the shoot.  Is there any way you can have your photographer stick up for you guys here?  Like have him/her tell family members that he/she doesn’t want anyone but the newlyweds around so you aren’t distracted?  I’m not sure if this would work, but it would be easier for me to listen to family complain afterward about a rude photographer than to have my shoot crashed.  This would have been an option for us, but my Father-In-Law is VERY confrontational…

Post # 7
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

I like the dj’s announcement hinting around idea.  And having your bridal party run interference.  Maybe you can have a backup plan if things aren’t working out?  Like if guests don’t take the hints and are making things hard on your bridal party, then you could have the dj announce something less subtle? 

We also had some small entertainment things that distracted our "random" guests from following us around.  We made photo scavenger cards with a request or two on each card for shots taken "before" (before the cake is cut, photo of the centerpieces before the food is served, etc…).  We also put up some pictures in frames of our family members’ wedding pictures, which a lot of people commented on.  Would something like this work for you?  Maybe a crossword puzzle or a "get to know the couple" trivia card to do during the cocktail hour?  I think if you distract them with something fun, they’ll be less likely to crash your private time.  Personally, I’d rather be drinking than following around the bride and groom…  maybe that’s just me.  ๐Ÿ˜‰

Post # 9
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Newbee

I lived in Australia for a little while and in there is a given that the bride and groom will have some time away from the guests for pictures between the ceremony… ok, we are not in Australia :-), but I think your plan can work out well.  As well as the suggestions from the other brides a couple of things you could do would be to add a small note about that on the program if you are having one. If that is possible you could also place the main sources of food drinks and/or band, if you have one on the opposite direction and place some watchful friends to catch any stray guests ๐Ÿ™‚ Best of luck. I am sure it is going to be great (let us know how it goes!).

Post # 10
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

i’m in the same situation.  i know my Mother-In-Law is gonna try to pry in on the photo action.  but we are getting married at a golf club so my Fiance said we can rent a golf cart and drive to different parts of the course.  which i’m thankful for that.  i would try to talk to the guys in your Bridal Party and have them redirect people to the cocktails.

Post # 11
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2000

Yup, you’ll definetely have followers. The biggest help is to have physical seperation between you & your guests. Using Wedding Party members probably won’t help much. They’ll be socializing too and will likey attract more attention. That job should be left to your wedding coordinators. Ideally there should only be you, your husband and your photographer.  Here’s what I tell my couples.

As soon as you exit the ceremony leave the area immediately, along with the Wedding Party and all family you want in portraits. I start with the largest family groupings, including grandparents & small children. That way they can quickly go to the cocktail how. 

Next I work my way down to smaller family units. Once I’m finished, I let them know I’m done and they can go & enjoy the cocktail hour. In other words, I state my desire as a suggestion but now everyone will take it. They’ll sit in the area, talking.

Next, I move on to the Wedding Party shots. Once I’m done, I’ll let them know that they can go to the coktail hour.  Then the couple & I will go to another location. Once the 3 of us walk away, I don’t usually get any followers. But if one person is allowed to stay, everyone thinks they’re welcome as well. 

I also give my couples some privacy from me. Often, I’ll direct them to walk to another area & I’ll hang back (or run ahead) and pull out a long lens to shoot them from a distance. 

If your venue isn’t big enough for you to get far away from your guests, then you really won’t have the privacy you want unless you go to another location. IMO, having the minister announce you desire for privacy is not rude.  Your photographer can also help in this regard. Some will forbid watchers during their portrait shoots, but most will not. But don’t let them take the "blame" for your desire of privacy. We rely on referrals and a bad review will spread a lot faster than a good one.

Good luck!

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