Post-elopement celebration – input

posted 1 year ago in Etiquette
Post # 2
1085 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

How far away are your guests? A local party without a meal is fine. 

Post # 3
578 posts
Busy bee

We did something similar. We got married just the two of us across the country and had a “happily ever after party”. It was casual, on a Friday evening starting at 7pm. We had wood fired pizzas and an ice-cream truck people really loved it. It was more of a party atmosphere then a wedding and lots of guests complimented how we did things. We had photos of our “elopement” and played a short video at the beginning that our photographers put together of our wedding day.

I think your idea sounds really lovely too. Obviously don’t make a registry or anything of that sort. We did get some envelopes with cash which was very unexpected but appreciated!

Post # 5
1611 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2018 - Location

 jade31 :  We are getting married abroad next month in a private ceremony. It’s an elopement I guess because no one will be there but it’s not a secret, we are engaged and everyone knows the plan.

We’ve organised for a semi-casual reception dinner about a month after we get back, we reserved a pub for the night and will have about 40 close friends adn family for dinner/drinks.

No speeches, bridal party, registry, favours etc…it’s not a wedding ๐Ÿ˜‰

What have you decided?


Post # 6
51 posts
Worker bee

jade31 :  I’m doing something similar, courthouse wedding then hosting a cocktail party to celebrate with about 60 friends and family. We’re doing it on a Saturday at 7pm, we’ll have heavy apps and covering alcohol for everyone but no formal dinner. I posted on the bee about this idea before locking it down and people were up in arms about not serving dinner. We’ve made it clear to everyone there will not be a dinner and we know our guests, they like to party and will be fine without a whole meal. Most of them are local and the ones who are not local, we are taking to dinner the night before  

Do whatever you guys want to do ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 7
8449 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

jade31 :  

I think  you can do whatever sort of celebration you like , whether it   feels a bit like a reception or not .  

You are being perfectly upfront about what the occasion is , so no need to worry about the form of it  I reckon . Both sound great. 

Post # 8
985 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 1983

If it’s at dinner-time, you need to provde dinner.

Post # 9
39 posts

You drinks and cake party idea sounds good to me! I can’t imagine there’s much etiquette you need to follow

Post # 10
528 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

I think you do whatever you like- it’s your party!  Friends of mine eloped, and then 3 months later had a dinner at 6 for a smaller group of close friends and family, and then invited less close friends and family for dancing and drinks and cake beginning at 9.  It actually worked out beautifully and everyone had a great time!  Congratulations!

Post # 11
1058 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2019

Nothing wrong with just champagne and cake (provided it’s after dinner hours). You might consider appetizers as well, when you have people drinking for several hours you want more substantial food than just cake.

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