Post # 1
So me and my fiance are planning to elope in the mountains and then plan to throw a party/laid back reception about 2 weeks later. We’re planning on eloping October 4, 2019 and want to have our party on October 19th. Would it be weird to send save the dates for the party in advance? I don’t want to tell people of the party last minute, but i also don’t really know the whole “elopement ettiquete.” I know most people secretly plan to elope or do it sooner rather than later. We’re just wanting to save money and I’m not sure how long alterations take on dresses. I’d also like to enjoy our engagement.
I know etsy and other sites have post elopement reception invitations, but do you think it would be okay to send save the dates in advance? Our immediate families and close friends know we plan to elope
Post # 2
I wouldn’t send a save the date. If I were to get one, I would expect a wedding. Just send the invitations. It doesn’t have to be last minute, you can send invites out before the wedding (I’d send them out in August).
Post # 3
Probably just send an invitation a bit earlier than a regular wedding invitation.
Post # 4
I would not send Save the Dates. I don’t really think that’s necessary. Kinda like inviting someone to your birthday party 9 months in advance. (We are planning an elopement/courthouse wedding as well – yay for eloping! Except for when the definition police come out and say since people know about it and we’re not running off we’re not really eloping. So maybe to be safe I’ll say 2019 version of eloping 😉 HA!)
Post # 5
I don’t think there’s an elopement etiquette! Just do what feels right for you. Also it depends on the size of the party you are having I guess.
I second PPs yay on the elopement. We eloped to Maui and it was the best choice ever!! It was also not quite an elopement as it used to be defined. I told everyone. The ones who wanted to hear and the ones who didn’t. 😂
Post # 6
Awesome thanks! We aren’t keeping it a secret or anything. I don’t think anyone will be offended that they aren’t there or that we aren’t having an actual wedding thankfully lol
Post # 7
Thank you! I think August is enough time in advance to let them know our plans to elope and that we’re hosting a party!