- 5 years ago
- Wedding: December 2012
Long time lurker, first time posting. I need help with a little creative thinking.
My husband and I have been together for 6+ years, we were having allot of trouble deciding the logistics of getting married (0 time, not so much $ and a LOT of logistical/scheduling challenges between school, family issues and work). We agreed that the one thing we could decide on was that we were in love and were ready to wed. So we decided to elope in Dec and figure the rest out later.
Well, it’s been later but we still don’t have it figured out. I know there are allot of diverse opinions on this topic (and to be honest it has always confused me).
First to get some things on the table (after seeing some posters on various forums getting allot of negative responses).
1) We could care less about gifts, don’t need them, won’t encourage them
2) We don’t care much about titles. I’m not necessarily looking to have a pretend wedding or ceremony, but simply want some place to bring together friends and family in love to celebrate
3) We have told close friends and family privately but have not made any announcements
4) 80% of our potential guests would be considered ‘non-traditional’. Both of our parents eloped, and some of our friends have even had JOP ceremonies followed by a ceremony and reception months later without backlash or scandal. I can confidently say that the majority of our guests would be there and be happy to support us regardless of the type of party we have. However, there would be a few that might have more traditional views.
5) We have heard and read allot of various opinions. Of the few friends we’ve told, some have suggested we should go ahead and have a typical wedding and they’d be glad to come. Others have said we should have some kind of engagement party and then say “surprise we’re married”. Others have said we should wait a year and then have a surprise first anniversary party.
Given where we are, does anyone have an creative ideas? So far I’ve been thinking a surprise first anniversary afternoon tea themed party. Any ideas on how we should word the invites so as to not give away the surprise? Has anyone done anything like this before? Given our schedules, we don’t have time for anything sooner anyway. I think for out-of-town friends we’d give them the scoop prior to coming and let them decide.