(Closed) Post engagement Anxiety!!!

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

After Fiance popped the question, I was so excited and shocked and anxious that I couldn’t eat for a couple days and then had to slowly eat again because I still felt like i couldn’t eat! Lol!

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

It’s a big change in your life. I think a lot of girls have SUCH high expectations and wait for the proposal for so long and then once they’re engaged, they realize their relationship is exactly the same… except now you are planning a big party.

Just try to enjoy the “honeymoon” phase of being engaged and don’t stress out! I just got engaged on the 4th of July and haven’t really done any planning except for thinking of a preliminary guest list.

You’ll be ok! πŸ™‚

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

@Apple Cake: OMG I was the same way… I couldn’t eat for 3 days! (Well, I ate but it was about 1/2 my normal appetite!)

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@ms.oregon.state: You’ll eventually figure out how to live in your “anxious and over-whelmed” stated of mind. Especially if your planning a wedding in 5 months!

My mouth hurt for the week after he proposed because I couldn’t stop smiling and giggling. Now, it’s just like I exist in this wedding planning world! BUT — oh happy day, my invitations, RSVP’s and Accommodation cards got picked up from the printer today! A good friend designed them for me and I am SO EXCITED. We’ll get the pocketfolds and envelopes Tuesday, and the excitement is killing me!

You’ll go through stages, lol. Just remember to always breathe!

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

i just finished reading ‘The Conscious Bride’ – which is awesome and totally helped me deal with all the weirdness i feel sometimes!  I was so impatient to get engaged and then when I did sometimes I feel so weirded out!  I actually ended up crying reading it, because it completely explained how yes it’s an amazing thing, but also stressful, scary, overwhelming, etc and that is totally fine!!  and my friend didn’t sleep for days after she got engaged, she said her mind was just spinning.  So it’s normal!  don’t worry sweetie πŸ™‚

Post # 10
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 2011

This is a big deal and a major change in both of your lives. Of course you are happy but it is normal to feel anxious etc.

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I hear you! I was lit. in shock all day although I knew it was coming. Everyone else was so excited and I felt the same, FH and I already knew we’d get married someday. I have to say it’s still sinking in… but I think it’s totally normal. Just breathe πŸ˜‰

Post # 12
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I feel sick sometimes because of the anxiety about planning a wedding that I dont want. We dont want traditional and we feel a lot of pressure to plan something big and traditional – even though we are getting little help with money. We have been engaged 6 months!!! Just enjoy being engaged. It took me a few months until I really accepted that I was…engaged. You will be fine. πŸ™‚ Your Fiance is still the same wonderful guy that you wished for so long would propose…but now he did and you get to keep each other forever now. (At least that is what I tell myself when I feel the anxiety creep in).

Post # 13
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Newbee
  • Wedding: July 2011

@ms.oregon.state: I know what you’re going through! Read “The Conscious Bride” and check out her website. It was soo helpful to me with the anxiety!

Post # 14
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Totally normal πŸ™‚ We got engaged while on vacation and it was amazing. I woke up the next day and realized that the ring was there and it was all real lol. Not to mention the swarm of people we came home to, that was a lot to handle, I didn’t like all the attention.  I had anxiety for about a week, but once I settled down and realized I’m marrying the man I’ve been with the past 7 years I calmed down.

It also became more fun once we started planning the engagement party πŸ™‚ Now we are looking for our venue and starting to piece a life together. It can be a little overwhelming at times, but you really start feeling happy and a big sense of accomplishment. Try to sit back and enjoy the ride! πŸ™‚

Another good book to try is Emotionally Engaged. It prepares you for all the emotional changes from the proposal to the marriage.

Hope you are feeling better! Smile

Post # 15
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

OMG I’m beyond happy…I got engaged yesterday morning. But I’m feeling already anxious and overwhelmed!!! I been with my Fiance for 8 years and we are planning getting married on our 9th year anniversary…which is 7 months away!! Originally he wanted in 3 months. But I was like no that’s way too soon. So today for the first time I went to see a venue because everyone is telling me to start planning a wedding takes time. We are both not traditional at all. I know bits and pieces of what I want but this planning overload is really freaking me out. I have no idea how to tell everyone that I want to enjoy been engaged for the next two months and start planning 5 months prior….please help!!! My parents want a very traditional wedding where I’m wearing a cupcake dress and have a super bright and big venue. What can I do to calm my nerves and how do I tell them what I want since they will be paying for my wedding.

Post # 16
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@butterfly1988:  U might need to make your own thread, since this thread is a year old and on a different topic–if you want to get a lot of advice on your post, that is. Otherwise, I think a lot of Bees will tell you that you lose power when you don’t pay for it yourself. My parents are not like that, luckily. They want to pay for it, but they have no dreams of it. It’s all up to me.. I’m so glad about that. 

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