(Closed) Post Engagement party

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
Member
665 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Send a thank you to everyone for attending (and thank them for any gifts as well!) and you should invite everyone to the wedding who has been invited to any sort of wedding related event 

Post # 5
Hostess
23602 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

I would send them now. 🙂  Happy engagement party!

Post # 6
Member
665 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

send thank you notes as things happen. I wrote thank you notes to people for the engagment party, I just finished writing thank you notes for one of my bridal showers, I will write thank you notes for my other showers and I will write thank you notes for wedding gifts as they come in. 

A person could end up getting multiple thank you notes, but they gave you multiple gifts, came to multiple events!

 

Post # 7
Member
1375 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

If people brought gifts, they are likely ‘engagement’ gifts rather than wedding gifts, and should be acknowledged right away, not after the wedding.

You do not need to send a thank you card to every single person who attended.

Post # 8
Member
735 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Send thank you notes to anyone who gives you a gift.  Send the note promptly (right away!) even if you suspect that you may get another gift from that person. (Mothers, for instance, may give engagement gifts, shower gifts and wedding gifts.  Send a thank you for each one, immediately after receiving each gift!)

You never need to send thank-yous to guests for just attending a party or dinner.  They were hosted, and the party/dinner was the “thanks for attending.” Some people feel that getting a “thanks just for coming” note can feel as though the sender is implying “why didn’t you give me anything?”  So be careful with those… 

It IS ok to send friendly letters at any time though – so if you really do feel like telling someone “It was so good to see you!” then that’s another issue – but you don’t need to put the note on a thank you card.

Post # 9
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3471 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2012 - The Gables Inn, Santa Rosa, CA

You should send a thank-you card ANY TIME you receive a gift.  

As for inviting them, this is up to you, but in my opinion it would be awkward to invite them to celebrate the engagement, but not the wedding. 

Post # 10
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3471 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2012 - The Gables Inn, Santa Rosa, CA

@jenjen96:  You send thank you cards as soon as possible after the gift was received. Same goes for wedding gifts that are sent before the big day; otherwise people will be wondering where they are and why it’s taking you so long. 

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