Post # 1
I’m very recently engaged (this Saturday!), and have found that people’s very first question is usually “When’s the wedding?”! I usually just stumble around and say “Um, a year or so I guess!” but I’m curious if that many people really do set a date almost immediately upon being engaged. We’ll probably narrow it down to a season within the next few weeks, then a date once we pick the venue.
Did you have a date set before you got engaged? If not, how long did it take you to set one?
Post # 3
We got engaged the first day of a four week roadtrip, so we couldn’t exactly plan while we were on the road. We picked a month, but not a particular day. A week or two after we got back, we met with the photographer I wanted, and we picked the date based on his availability. It wasn’t based on romantic or significant dates for us!
Post # 4
I really think it depends on the length of your engagement. We knew we wanted a short engagement, so we picked a date and booked a venue within a few days. If you’re going to be engaged a year or more, I think it’s wise to start with a season or month, then narrow it down from there, just like you’re doing!
Post # 5
We didn’t set a date for a while after getting engaged.
Post # 6
We got engaged on 12/30 and set our date on 1/15 for 1/15/11. We didn’t wait too long, mainly because I was ready and we wanted to get everything out of the way.
Post # 7
Congrats!!! We set our date a few months after the wedding after some prodding (I’d love to see you get married before I die… Can you say passive aggressive!) Anyway If you don’t want to set the date right now just tell people you want to enjoy your engagement before starting the rigorous work of planning a wedding and leave it at that. Happy planning!!!
Post # 8
Congrats on your engagement 🙂 We got engaged in the begining of April. I knew I wanted a spring or fall wedding. A coworker, who was formerly a good friend, planned her wedding for 09/10/2011 which was the date I had wanted. So I decided that since we got engaged on a Friday we’d get married one year later, since it would be a Saturday. To answer your question though (sorry didn’t mean to go on a tangent) we decided this about two weeks after the engagement, after talking with our parents and the church to make sure the date worked.
Until we decided though, we just told people “Oh probably spring or fall 2011” 🙂
Post # 9
Congrats on your engagment!! We set our date a few months after we were engaged. Enjoy the time together before the stress of planning starts!
Post # 10
People are anxious for a party!! We got engaged, then decided what city to use for our Destination Wedding and then my mom and I visited that city to check out venuees and THEN the date was chosen based on the availability of our favorite venue. (That was a long sentence!) Anyway, we had it narrowed down to “probably March or April of next year” when people asked and that seemed to satisfy them. Maybe you can narrow down a season so you can at least say “Sometime next Spring, we hope!” when people ask.
Post # 11
We decided the night that we got engaged, but I don’t think that’s typical! We got engaged in December ’09 and would either have to get married December ’10 or summer 2011. We didn’t want that long of an engagment and both love NYE, so that’s what we picked.
Post # 12
We knew we wanted an 18 month engagement (engaged Christamas 08, marry summer 10). We didn’t set the actual date until about August 09 🙂
Post # 13
We got engaged on a Tuesday and had a date by Saturday. He only had two weeks before he had to redeploy so we were on a time crunch
Post # 14
Yes, everyone’s favorite question! We waited about a month before we set a date. We relaxed and checked out a ton of places- it was slightly stressful in that dates were getting filled right and left. We gave ourselves a little over a year to plan the whole thing.
Post # 15
We got engaged right before christmas…got caught up in the holidays and then took our time looking at alllll the options out there…decided on a fall wedding eventually 🙂 No rush here so that’s how we came to it.
I also have the mindset that we only get to do this once (and so does my mom!) so we had fun exploring the possibilities.
Btw- EVERYONE will ask you when the date is! I found it really annoying after awhile but since I’ve become engaged, and then some of my friends, I catch myself asking them if they have a date. It’s all part of the exerience 🙂 Just enjoy every minute of it!
Post # 16
We got engaged on July 22, 2009. We set our date last week, so, yeah….
(OK, disclaimer, we did set a date but then had to move it back a year so just told people a vague “sometime next summer” for a long time, but it took us at least a month to come up with that first date anyway.)