Post # 1
Has anyone else ever felt like this?
I have the post wedding blues. I lived, ate, and breathed wedding for a year and now that it’s over, I don’t know what to do with myself. I’ve never been so focused as I was when planning the wedding. I ate right, exercised, saved money, etc – basically met every goal I set for myself for the first time ever! I have new goals now, but don’t feel very motivated. It’s not like I don’t have plenty to do… I work 50 hours a week (at a job I loathe) and have three classes per semester… but it’s not enough. I MISS the wedding. 🙁
I have the post holidays blues. It was all such a fun build up and then it just ended, bam. Not that it wasn’t great, it really was! It’s just… back to life, as usual. And as you can tell from my above post, life isn’t very fun at the moment.
I have the post biopsy blues. I’m SO thrilled that the biopsy came back clean and the cancer is not back, but just the fact that I had a scare for the first time in two years threw me for a loop and brought back all of those old fears and dreads. I hate it for invading my mind again.
I want to start trying for a baby, but I know we need to get our finances in order. I’m starting steps to do that, but it’s not quite as fun as the wedding part. Who likes paying off debt? It’s a necessary evil, but it has me down to even think of it being there and then think of the hardship it’s going to be to pay it down/off.
I don’t know… I need to quite whining. Life is good, I’m married, I’m healthy (yay!), I still have a job (though loathe it I may), and it’s not like I really have any reason to be depressed. What is up with this post-everything depression?
Post # 3
- Wedding: March 2010 - Ritz-Carlton, Half Moon Bay
i’m sorry you’re feeling the blues. i think it’s totally understandable–a wedding gives you so much to look forward to (and all the other money and fitness related goals), that when it’s over things definitely seem kind of empty. i always feel that way after the holidays, and won’t be surprised if it happens after the wedding.
it’s particularly hard when you’re working so many hours at a job you don’t like–the wedding was probably a really nice distraction in comparison and now it feels like you just have the plain old job. not liking your job is very, very tough (i know the feeling).
basically i’m saying that it’s totally understandable to have post-everything blues, and it happens to lots of folks.
is there anything else you could focus your awesome energy on that would help cheer you up? like something around the home to welcome you and your partner to newlywed life?
Post # 4
Thanks Miss Pug. I don’t know what I could… I mean, I have set goals (working out, saving money, paying debt, etc) but none are fun. I need a fun goal… but I’m at a loss for what! We rent our home, so I can’t do any home improvement projects.
I’m just not used to having the blues. I’ve always been very fortunate to not deal with it. I guess I just don’t know how to deal with it. :/
Post # 5
I went through a short bout of PWB or funk or something.
Mr. DG and I decided we needed a tangible goal to work towards, so we planned a mid winter vacation (February) that would help us have something to look forward to and save for… It doesn’t have to be a big vacation, just one that really excites you 🙂
The added bonus is that we’ll get to be in sunny Mexico in February!
Post # 6
Aww, that’s perfectly understandable! I am usually so grateful for the holidays to be over b/c for me holidays = nonstop traveling and spending tons of money. And the wedding probably was a nice distraction from a job you don’t like. Can you look for another job? Or start a new hobby? Like lessons in a foreign language, art/cooking classes or going on a fun vacation?
Post # 7
@DG – Brilliant idea!! I hadn’t even considered it (I have no idea why, duh. I haven’t been on a “real” vacation in years) but that’s exactly what I need!! Thank you! It will throw the money and fitness goal in line, and give me something to look forward to and push me through work. Yes! Thank you!
@modern daisy – I think you’re right, the wedding planning definitely got me through the work days and now they just drag on and on…. I am taking sign language in the summer, but I can’t fit in anything else during the regular semester. I wish I could!
Post # 8
I’m with you on a couple of those! After the wedding, we came back and I IMMEDIATELY started taking a summer term Statistics (aka 3 months of class crammed into 4 wees), and after my class was over all of a sudden I was left with a job I hated, and nothing interesting to do with my time. I took up baking, hiking and reading until the fall term started. I can now make killer bread, and the best pizza dough ever. But I also have noticed i’ve been having a harder time achieving my goals, it just doesn’t seem so easy without such a big goal to work for. Know what I mean?
Post # 9
@MrsUerlings – I know EXACTLY what you mean. :/
Post # 10
Layla- I only know because I lived it!
When we planned our honeymoon, Mr. DG really didn’t want anything to do with the beach. He wanted adventure outdoors. In the end, I’m so glad we spent our honeymoon in the mountains, but I made him promise to take me to the beach sometime soon. Seattle in winter can be so dreary!
We had planned on Cuba, but that’s probably not the best plan at 28 weeks pregnant! He’s always been interested in Mayan history and I’m always interested in the beach 😉 so the Southern Mayan Riviera was the perfect place for us. We’re going to Tulum which is about 2 hours south of Cancun.
(Can you tell I’m excited?)
We stalked bing, expedia, priceline etc and waited until we got the cheapest possible fare… (seriously, it was a steal). And we did tons of research until we found the perfect B&B to stay at (also incredibly economical at $75/night for the two of us). For flights, lodging and rental car, we’re coming in under $1,000! It was so much fun to plan.
Post # 11
I’m sorry about your blues! I’m feeling a bit of a post surgery blues myself. I haven’t really had too much of PW blues because I didn’t really have much time to be completely involved in it. I hope that you feel better soon!
Post # 12
@Layla: Maybe try volunteering? It doesn’t require too much of a time committment…I volunteer about 4-6 hours/week at the animal shelter and it’s very rewarding. Kind of breaks up the work/school/gym/pay bills routine.
Post # 13
DG – I’m excited for you! I hope you post pics! I would LOVE to go to Cuba one day, too. It’s still 1955 there, in my head. 😉
I literally haven’t been on a real vacation in over 2 years. Last year, all of my time off of work was to recover from surgery, which left zero vacation time, and this year, all of my time off was used for doctors visits and the wedding. We took a week off after the wedding, but couldn’t afford a honeymoon, so we slummymooned it at home. I think I just need a little breather – to get away somewhere and remember WHY I come to this dreadful office everyday!
Post # 14
@hotchild – I like it! There is a non-profit animal rescue run completely by volunteers nearby that I’d like to get involved with. Good idea!