Post # 1
Sooo.. that just happened.
For Western Easter Fiance and I visited his grandmother�s church. It�s a tiny
little thing with about 15-20 people there. The pastor is a great guy, and Fiance has a bit of an attachment to him. (He
grew up going to his parents� Presbyterian church but would often visit
this little nondenominational church with his grandparents.)
So I had the idea to have the pastor say a few words at our reception. My
priest (I�m Greek Orthodox) usually says a prayer and blesses the food
before luncheons and things like that, so naturally he would do something
like that at the reception. I asked if the pastor could also say a few
words. I know Fiance is very accepting of Greek traditions, but I�m pretty sure
he never imagined having a wedding so �different� from his cultural norm.
He was delighted with the idea so yesterday morning, we asked the pastor if
he would say a few words at our reception.
Halfway through church he has a section for announcements. I was only half
listening to them (as they were plans for missionary trips, people in
hospitals, etc) and then I heard my name.
Chrysoberyl and Fiance have booked a date for their wedding! Let�s congratulate
them on their engagement and we all look forward to celebrating on
And people clapped and congratulated us and told us how excited they were
for the big day.
Was that.. was that an open invitation to a group of 20 or so people to
come to my wedding????
Or am I overreacting. Oh God.. D:
Post # 3
- Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort
No, that was not an open invitation.
Post # 4
If your wedding isn’t being held at that church, they’ll figure it out when they don’t get invitations in the mail.
Post # 5
Don’t stress… churches are typically public establishments, and often a congregation will come to a wedding ceremony but not necessarily expect an official invitation to the reception. It would be nice to offer refreshments at the church for them, but I don’t think it’s required since they aren’t officially invited to any of the wedding festivities. It’s my understanding that church weddings are sometimes attended by the church congregation (but I’m not particularly religious nor do I go to church, so I may be misinformed).
Post # 6
Congregants may show up to the wedding ceremony at the church to offer their congratulations, but none of them will assume they are invited to the reception unless you actually send them an invitation. This is not uncommon in different parts of the country/world.
Post # 7
No, I don’t think he meant it as an invitation. It seems like more of an announcement of your wedding, and churches do that a LOT. Every time anyone at my church gets married, it’s in the bulletin, but people know that it doesn’t mean they are invited. I highly doubt any of those people will go to our wedding if they don’t get an invitation, especially since it doesn’t sound like you are actually getting married in that church, and they certainly won’t be attending your reception. I wouldn’t worry about it, he was just happy for you guys!
Post # 8
No, it wasn’t. I think they meant celebrating with you in faith, not actually in person. People know that if they get an invite, they are invited, and if they don’t then they won’t come.
Post # 9
Often, if your wedding is held at your home church, people will come for the reception and it is considered completely normal to do this. They won’t expect an invite to the reception. If it isn’t held at the church, then you don’t have to worry, they likely wont invite themselves or even know where to go.
Post # 10
Ha, I was a little scared for you when I read the title. But no, that wasn’t an open invitation.
Post # 11
I think it just means they may show to the wedding and not expected at the reception. That small of a church they must have known him since he was a little kid. Must be exciting for them.
Plus, seriously I was in a Russian Orthodox wedding and that was AMAZING to watch. It was in a Greek orthodox church, but seriously I would love to just see one, not being a Bridesmaid or Best Man, like from the pews. I’m sure he didn’t mean harm and just was excited to be there to see your Fiance get married.
EtA: do you do the crowns and the three times around the alter?
Post # 12
I think he meant celebrate your upcoming wedding. Not that everyone is invited.
Post # 13
Haha, no. Not at all. It was just so others could acknowledge you and wish you well.
Post # 14
- Wedding: July 2017 - Bristol zoo
He’s just spreading the good news, if you were pregnant and told him the due date he might have said a similar thing (but obviously no one would try to turn up for that :3).
If you are getting married in a church you might see some people you didn’t invite ^^ They won’t come to your reception though x
Post # 15
I think usually if you get married in a church, the congregation is supposed to be welcome to attend the ceremony. The reception, however, is an entirely different matter. They would need an invitation from you for that.
Post # 16
- Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL
@DaneLady: This. It’s common in my small hometown church for the announcement to be made to the congregation and they are all welcome to attend the ceremony but they know they aren’t invited to the reception unless they receive an invitation in the mail.