(Closed) post-marriage family get togethers…

posted 7 years ago in Relationships
Post # 4
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581 posts
Busy bee

I think I’d have your side over first to try everything out.  They sound a little more relaxed and you can try out all your new stuff on them.  Don’t feel you must invite both sides to everything.  That will probably come when the babies come and you have birthdays to celebrate!

Post # 5
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Bumble bee

I definitely don’t think you need to invite both sides EVERY time. OMG that would drive me crazy! Sometimes, yes, it might be nice especially if for example it is your or your DH’s birthday. But if you host a dinner for your sister’s birthday, why would you invite your in laws? If your MIL is going to comment, just don’t tell her you are hosting a get-together for people who aren’t her. MILs don’t have to know everything 🙂

Post # 6
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1148 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

I’d say that you can keep them separated. After my older sister got married, she didn’t really invite everyone over at the same time. I don’t really plan on doing that with my family, although my dad and younger sister have come to a couple of my FI’s family functions, but mostly on like Easter because it’s been weird for them since my parents separated.

Post # 7
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

I am not a big fan of mixing our families either, we also have two very different families just the opposite of yours.  We usually do seperate things with our families.  Our families have as of yet, have not met, they will meet for the first time at our wedding.  So freaking out about this.  We are both fine with keeping our families seperate.

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

If it were me, I’d keep the get togethers separate.  I know I will in my family get togethers with the hubs.  Just because you guys get married, doesn’t mean the families marry eachother.  Does that make sense?  Hopefully your MIL will understand that there is no need to always combine family events.  Sometimes, you’re just going to want your family over and sometimes he’ll just want his over and that’s 100% ok.  Honestly, if I had both mine and DH’s family over for every get together, I’d never want to have a get together ever again! lol

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