(Closed) Post partum – I didn't think it would happen to me

posted 4 years ago in Pregnancy
Post # 46
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

anonbee10003:  Please don’t let yourself go through this alone. There are people who can, and will, help you.

You are never on your own, and you will get through it. Talk to your husband, and remember that there is an end in sight to all of this. It won’t last forever.

Post # 47
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Worker bee

Blushpool:  You’re comparing me with a child that tore the tail off a cat? You’re off your rocker. I was sitting in the family room with the mom, dad, and family presnt, and I attempted to pet the dog, who was laying at my feet. 

Thank you so much for your compassion. 

Post # 48
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

independentwoman:  Thanks for the diagnosis. I was actually comparing you to the cat, and the dog who you petted to the child who pulled the cat’s tail off. Your family wanted the dog rehomed, our family wanted the child gone. 

Post # 49
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

Blushpool:  How about taking your comments elsewhere. Don’t use this thread to berate another who had a traumetic experience. 

 

OP, so sorry to hear you are going through post partum. Reach out to family and friends for support. If you don’t have any close, reach out to a doula who provides post partum care. They are trained to help you by providing physical and emotional support, whether that is someone to wash your dishes or rock the baby or talk with you through the emotions you are experiencing. 

Post # 50
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Worker bee

Blushpool:  awesome. well in your ridculous and offensive re-construction scenario, I would send that child to therapy and if he/she continued to behave aggressively, I have no doubt that he/she would eventually go to jail. Last I checked, there is no doggy jail. Maybe you can create one at your house? Also, when the child grows up, if he/she continues to be aggressive and dangerous, I wouldn’t see that child anymore. Same way I don’t keep in contact with  my emotionally abusive mother. Maybe I’m just a bitch though for having boundaries and standards and putting my health and safety (and that of my family/friends) before the welfare of a dog (or that child, in your pathetic re-construction attempting to make me sound like a bad person). Have a nice day! 

Post # 51
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112 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

 

Mazly007:  Everyone has different priorities and opinions. That’s life. That’s the internet. If you can’t handle that simple truth, you need to stay indoors and offline. 

independentwoman:  I didn’t say or attempt to make you sound like a bad person, and that was never my intention. We clearly have different opinions, and it’s no one’s duty to make sure you only hear people echo your own sentiments. Happy to disagree on this subject. 

And thanks, I will 🙂

Post # 52
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

 

anonbee10003:  

 

Please please please understand that you are not alone!!!  I rarely post here anymore but when I read your post, I knew I needed to post.  When my daughter was born (3 months ago), it was the worst 6 weeks of my life.  I cried non-stop all the time.  I missed the time with just my husband and I didn’t understand why I didn’t feel a big connection with my daughter.  I felt like no one warned me about this and I felt like the worst mother and wife in the world.  I needed to have my mom come over almost every day so I could spend time alone crying in bed.  I would leave the house in the evening when my husband got home so I could get away from her.  I was so worried that nothing would go back to normal. 

These feelings are all ok and normal!!  If they don’t go away within a couple months or you have thoughts of harming yourself or your baby, get help immediately!  If it is baby blues, your feelings will totally change within a couple months.  I am 3.5 months post partum now and things are so much better.  I couldn’t be more in love with my little girl.  My husband and I are still adjusting to our new normal with one another but each day gets better.

Lastly, my baby had colic and acid reflux.  Make sure she is checked for acid reflux as this could help your crying issue!  Good luck bee, it truly does get better. I promise.

Post # 53
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

OP, I didn’t read all of what was written by the others but none of this is your fault and PPD isn’t something you should be ashamed of. I believe that you should talk to your doctor but I would suggest bringing your husband with you. He doesn’t seem to realize what you are going through.  He should be educated on PPD so he can help you. 

Post # 54
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2013

Take the thread jacking elsewhere.

Post # 56
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Sugar bee

Blushpool:  Seriously? I have pets and know how much one loves them and that they are a part of the family. But c’mon. Comparing misbehaving kid to a dog that could turn aggressive, that is some far far fetched comparison. Bee had traumatic experience with the dog, getting one’s hand chewed to the bone at a young age I am sure is not a paper cut and you are minimizing her experience and berating her. Also, if dog does turn aggressive and bites a child, yes, that is the reason to maybe think about other options for the dog.

I myself witnessed a scene once – toddler (maybe 5) was at the playground playing with their dog, (cocker spaniel I believe) when all the sudden something snapped and dog attacked the child, ripping his face off. Was pretty bad. As a parent, if one knows their dog shows aggressive tendencies, the parent has responsibility to that child. It is appalling you can’t see that.

But with your post history of your husband meeting women from the internet for sex, making excuses for him even though 14 pages worth of responses were telling you otherwise, hoarding 10+ cats, and bunch of other issues, it is not surprising.

 

 

  • This reply was modified 4 years, 4 months ago by  solnishko1186.
Post # 57
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Sugar bee

independentwoman:  Don’t pay attention to her comments. It is pointless to try and prove a point or argue. Just look at her started threads history.

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