(Closed) Post-Puppy Depression?

posted 9 years ago in Pets
Post # 31
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2017

YES! I am a lifetime dog-lover and I had grown up with 2 dogs that were more like siblings to me than pets. After moving away from home I wanted to do the responsible thing and wait untill I had a house and a yard where a puppy could be happy forever. So, fastforward 10 years and I bring home a happy (yet challenging) 6 week old lab-catahoula mix. I had the puppy blues for weeks! While she was adorable I was completely overwhelmed by the responsibility of caring for a puppy. Plus, she needed extra socialization due to some behavioral issues which was not easy considering we lived in the middle of nowhere. However, now, 3 years later she is such a huge part of our lives and I can’t imagine a day without her! My fiance actually took her on a weekend camping trip without me and I think I missed her more than I missed him 🙂 Dogs have a way of making you love them 🙂

Post # 32
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Wannabee
  • Wedding: April 2017

 Hi Bees, i found this forum by googling puppy depression and it’s very reaasuring to hear success stories!

I live alone with a 2y/o dog and got my 7weeks old poodle 5days ago. I am having serious blues.. i feel nauseated often and sweat buckets. I havent told anyone who knows me what Ive been feeling and it feels like I’m starting to distance my friends. They don’t know about the puppy either! The thing is, ive spent months looking for a pup who could keep me company at home and was thinking of dropping it off at my parents when at work, then picking him up again etc. I had a close friend tell me to rethink this and i cant possibly look after the puppy alone and it is a lottt of work, and that its another life I’m talking about.. Nevertheless, i thought my 1st pup was ok, i managed mostly alone but now.. I’m not so sure. I did not tell that friend what I’m feeling now out of shame.

I keep thinking this is a mistake and i shouldve listened to that friend. My parents love the pup though but i cant help feeling that one day they will be frustrated with it and I’ll be blamed.

How do i get over all these anxieties and get to where you all are now? The potty training is the most challenging, i can never be there when he wees or poops.. ill bring him out to the grass but he’d stay by my feet but when we get in, he’d do his business on the floor. I’m also worried about exposing him to ticks and stuff if i bring him to the grass? And this is just potty training, what about when he destroys stuff indoors? I live in a country with no dog training schools *deep breaths* 

Any suggestions or do i really have to give him back and break my parents’ hearts?

Post # 33
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Helper bee

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beeleafinyou :  getting a puppy is a big responsibility (obviously) and you need to really put in the time in those early days. It will and should turn your life upside down for the first few months. We did LOADS of research and preparation and it was still hard. Definitely had the puppy blues for the first few weeks (like, quite a few weeks, but it gradually gets better). I think a lot of that is sleep deprivation. My best friend has a toddler and when we spoke about the puppy and toddler it was just so similar in so many ways – the joy and despair! She’s 7 months old now and I’d say it’s about 90:10 joy to despair ratio.

It’s a shame you don’t have puppy training classes in your area. It is even more important in that case that you make sure you know how to train properly, that you do it consistently, and that you socialise your pup in the right way.

The understanding of dog psychology has changed massively over the last few years, and is totally different to when I and my partner separately had dogs before. It used to be all about domination. Now it is DEFINITELY not.

This guy does loads of good Youtube videos: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-Lu–5Yv22A

Good luck!

Here’s a bonus pic of our puppy with our kitten who we got three weeks later.

Post # 34
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Wannabee

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miss_blondie86 :  gosh! I am so glad I am not the only one feeling like this. All I can think of right now is getting rid of the pup

Post # 35
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

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miss_blondie86 :  Don’t worry, these feelings are normal! When we got our pup I felt the same way, even though I had been dreaming of this little puppy for years.

Puppies are cute and amazing but they are also babies. They can be messy, noisy and little jerks as you know! In no time pup will settle down. Our guy is 3 now and he is so chiled out and lovely. It wil get great!

Post # 36
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: January 2015

Do not worry. At all. Its so common as you can see here. 

Our puppy cried, pooped, jumped up and ate everything from my wedding shoes to the laptop. Sometimes i just wanted to (and did occasionally) scream.and cry. 

Now she is two she is an angel, my best friend, cuddles me every day and the love  i have for her scares me how intense it is. 

Post # 37
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Wannabee

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Bunnyang :  she came home last Sunday at 6 wks old. Seemed calmed. My husband and I work in the same place and we are 5 mins away from home so my routine is just crazy. I get up at 6 go downstairs get her up and out to potty she does well with that. Once done I bring her in to eat her 1st meal in her crate while I try to get ready. Then take her out one more time before I leave for the day at 730am. I come home at 1130 get her out to potty then her second meal then we just go outside and play play play! For about 45 mins then she has to go back in her crate as I go back at 1230. I come home at 445pm and I literally do nothing else but play with her for 1 to 2 hours then dinner and back outside for another hour or so. All is great except that at 1030 when I am exhausted and I take her to her crate she just cries and cries. I am not sure what am I doing wrong 

Post # 38
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Wannabee

Wow! Today since it is Saturday she started out early playing and having attention it is now 10 am and she actually asked to go into her box! She still won’t go into her crate she rather be in a carton box!

Post # 39
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Blushing bee

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miss_blondie86 :  yes!!! My SO and I just got a puppy together in February. I cried a few times and was so upset and def regretted it.. for at least 2-4 weeks. Now he’s almost 5 months old and such a good boy and has grown a lot and learned a lot. Puppies are incredibly hard but once you get past the hard part it’s great. I felt the same way though 

Post # 40
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

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Zoraida555 :  So cute!! I don’t think you are doing anything wrong! It just takes time. 6 weeks is VERY young for a puppy to leave its mother. Many don’t recommend it before at least 8 weeks, sometimes up to 12. That could be part of the problem.

Post # 41
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Wannabee

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Bunnyang :  thank you got your reply! We are Also trying to get out house ready to go on the market like this week, we (my husband and i) tiled our floors just finished last night so I think my plate is just full….last night as I was helping my husband with grout I just stopped and sobbed and even I was like what is wrong with me!

Post # 42
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Wannabee
  • Wedding: April 2017

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coolwater17 :  thank you SO much for replying to me! I read but I was too deep in the blues to reply immediately, but those videos helped calm me down a LOT. It’s been four months and I am so glad I did not give him up! He is the only thing I look forward to seeing at the end of the day! He is so full of love and kisses and I’m just so glad I can reciprocate and love him back. This thread is the best support. Thank you all. To everyone who feels intense regret about their puppy.. I’ve been there. I couldn’t even eat full meals and slept in cold sweat for weeks.. but it got better when i found all these online support and info. Have hope!

Post # 43
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Blushing bee

Just to add to the many voices in this thread:

My dog is now over 7 years old, but when I got him as a 9 week puppy, I felt some serious regret. It was so much work to train him, particularly house train him, and I was single at the time. It was a ton of work to do on my own! I also felt concerned that he was tying me down and at home. I never seriously considered giving him up, but I did sometimes wonder if I had made a mistake getting him. Now he’s my best little buddy and I can’t imagine life without him! All the work I put in at the beginning paid off in a fantastic little guy who regularly gets compliments on his good behaviour.

I am currently 6 weeks pregnant, and I feel like my experience with my dog prepared me for mixed feelings I might have when the baby arrives! It doesn’t matter how much you plan or anticipate something, when your life is turned upside down, you are inevitably going to wonder if you made the right decision. I am assuming I will have a similarly happy outcome eventually with the little one. 🙂

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