(Closed) Post-Reception "After Party"?

posted 5 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 2
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

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anonybeemas :  I would not make this a paperless post as it assumes there is a HOST. There is no classy way to say we can’t afford you at our wedding but we want to hang-out after without paying for you. In order to avoid this, it should be sometimes more informal like a Facebook invite, word of mouth, or an informal email. Something that suggests hanging out rather than a party

“Hey guys, we are headed to XYZ bar after our wedding reception to continue drinking and hanging out if you’d like to join”

Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

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anonybeemas :  Not cool.  They should invite all the people they want to invite to the wedding and THEN figure out how to host them within budget.  If they want 50 people there, they should invite all 50 and serve cake and punch.  Because it’s obvious to me if I’m in the second group that I didn’t rank high enough to get a slice of cake paid for, but I’m welcome to come to the later party and pay for myself.  See how that sucks?

When people talk about non-hosted after-parties on here, they’re usually talking about CONTINUING the party.  In that case I think it’s fine – people have already been hosted, now let’s go do some extra thing.  

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2017

Nope. You can’t host a party and not pay for everyone. Like PP said, the only option is an extremely informal ‘hey we’re going to go to this bar at this time if you’re interested.’ Why not have a cocktail party at someone’s home since cost is the issue?  

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2017

Based on your clarifying post, I think formal invites are appropriate. I wouldn’t make any reference to the ceremony and traditional reception though. Keep it along the lines of “come celebrate our marriage over drinks…” but you can tailor it to your preference in formality.

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2017

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anonybeemas :  Whoops! We must have posted at the same time!

In this case, yes, sending out a paperless post invite to a dinner or cocktail party or whatever the case may be would be totally fine. I think it would be wise to call it a ‘celebration of marriage’ or something along those lines. “Newlywed A and Newlywed B invite you to celebrate thier recent wedding. Please join us for [dinner/cocktails/etc] on X date at Y time.”

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