Post # 1
The church we might have our reception at doesn’t allow dancing (I guess they’re afraid of people getting too…handsy or something), which really sucks, because both my fiancé and I were looking forward to our first dance and dancing with our family and friends. BUT…they would let us have it for free, which is a huge advantage for us to spend more money on places we couldn’t otherwise.
We both thought of a solution, though: going to a local bar after the polite cake and punch reception. The bar serves really good food as well. It has a little “jukebox” where you can pay to play songs, and so we might be able to have a first dance, although people don’t really dance there that I’ve seen.
Would it be weird to do that? Like showing up in my floor-length tulle gown at a sports bar? Haha. It would make for some interesting pictures. Would I need to call ahead of time and ask to reserve tables for our large party? I imagine only the young-folk population of our guest list (about 25 people) would show up.
Post # 2
If you’re going to invite a group of 25 or so people to an event, you definitely need to call ahead and make sure they can accomodate you. Keep in mind places often charge more for wedding events, and if you show up in a wedding dress, it’ll be a dead give-away that it’s a wedding celebration.
Personally, I would say if your reception venue doesn’t allow you to have the event you want, you should look elsewhere, rather than adding a third location to the mix. Once you factor in the cost of food/drinks at the bar, it might end up being cheaper to rent a pavilion at a public park and get a sound system for dancing.
Post # 3
Well, there are multiple factors.
1. Most bars/restaurants have limits on how large of a group they will accommodate without prior notice. You usually can’t just show up with 25 people and be expected to be accommodated as a group. They want to make sure they have adequate room and waitstaff available without giving their other customers the short end of the stick.
2. Who is paying for this food and trip to the bar and how can you be sure only the “young people” want to come along? Lots of my not young family frequent bars for food and since you’re not serving a meal at your reception, you may have more people interested than you think. And if you’re formally inviting people to this as a legitimate wedding activity, then it is expected you are formally hosting (i.e. paying). The only way you wouldn’t be expected to pay is if you don’t formally invite people can just share word of mouth that you are planning to grab food and drinks there after and people can head over there if they want. But then you don’t have a guarantee of how many or that the bar accommodate you.
Personally, I would either find a new reception spot that offers what you actually want in a reception or just be good with what you’ve got and do a “first dance” on your own after the wedding. Hell, turn up the car stereo and have it in the parking lot or load up a song on your phone.
Post # 4
We had an after party at a bar. We made arrangements ahead for burgers and fries, which we paid for. They were thrilled to have us.
But this was after a full reception (cocktail hour, dinner, dancing, etc.). It was by word of mouth and partially driven by our venue’s closing time (11pm).
Punch and cake followed by a trip to a bar seems pretty obnoxious to ne, host wise.
Post # 5
Bekah Boots : With a guest list your size (which is the same as mine) maybe you could consider having your reception in someones home or a backyard reception? That’s what I’m doing and then you could really do whatever you want and you still wouldn’t be paying for a venue.
Post # 6
All great suggestions! Thank you!
Post # 7
Yeah no the bar idea seems weird to me. Oh we got a free hall but now come with us to a bar so I can dance but you have to pay
Post # 8
- Wedding: September 2017 - Poppy Ridge Golf Course
Innerdonught : I was thinking the same.