(Closed) post-rehearsal dinner get-together

posted 9 years ago in Denver
Post # 3
337 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

That’s an interesting idea. We are going to be in the middle of nowhere, so we kind of have to invite everyone. I think you could totally pull this off though.

I think an Evite is a great idea, plus word of mouth. Let people know that you’d like to see them before you get all gussied up the next day. 

Post # 4
613 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

we’re doing this for the very same reasons.  I put on the website that ‘due to space constraints, only the actual bridal party is invited ot the rehearsal dinner’ yada yada yada…then I created a new event called "The After Party".  Besides the website, we’ve spread everything to our friends very word of mouth…when Out of Town guests ask about the rehearsal dinner, we explain that its going to be very small and then tell them about the after-party…

My wedding is in 2 weeks, so I will tell you how it goes…

Post # 5
57 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

We are doing something similar, and I’m going to put a note about it in the Out of Town bags, and email friends before hand as well. 

Post # 6
1428 posts
Bumble bee

What about calling it something like "Pre-wedding gathering"…that way there’s no confusion with people who are not invited to the rehearsal dinner?
I like the Evite idea too, are your Out of Town guests staying at the same hotel? If so, maybe you could have something printed up that they would receive at check-in…"Please join us at Irish pub at 9pm tonight for some cocktails…."

Post # 7
88 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2009

We are doing the same thing, I hadn’t even thought about how to tell people yet.  I should probably start doing that.  I like the evite idea, we use evite for most parties we have generally as do our friends, so I think that makes sense.  The one thing that I am confused about on the wording is how to make it clear that we won’t be paying for that portion of the evening.  We are on a pretty tight budget, so we are having a smaller rehersal dinner, than the after party at a reserved space at a bar near where the Out of Town guests are staying.  But we can’t afford to pay for it to be open bar.

Post # 8
820 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2009

We’re doing the same thing! My brother went to one of these recently and said it was a hit. He got an actual invitation in the mail for it. We’re planning on likely doing real invitations too, once we find out who is coming in the night before the wedding. They will probably say something like "Please join us for a welcome reception following the rehearsal dinner. Dessert and drinks will be served." We had considered putting it in the Out of Town bags too but then we realized guests might really want to plan for this (outfits, etc) ahead of time. 

Our biggest problem is how to give a count to the Rehearsal Dinner place (we’re having the post-RD party right at the Rehearsal Dinner site). We don’t know how many to figure on, but will probably go with the # of people that will be in town that night, which we can find out from hotel bookings.  

Good luck! I’m gonna watch this thread for other ideas 🙂  

Post # 9
2324 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

How about calling it Welcome Cocktails or something…that’s what it is and it makes the point that there is no food. Also, add some recommendations for restaurants in the area on your website for them to eat at.

Post # 10
883 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2009

That was exactly the same thing we were faced with.  We had a small rehearsal dinner and then invited all Out of Town guests to a "Welcome Party" in the same location. We VistaPrint-ed invites for the rehearsal dinner, and then home ink jet printed a similar invite for the Welcome Party and put that and directions in the Out of Town bag.  We also let everyone know by word of mouth about the welcome party ahead of time so they knew it was coming.  It worked out great!! I blogged about it:


We had a great time and it was a good way to balance budget, ettiquete and guest fun!

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