- 6 years ago
- Wedding: September 2014 - Manhattan Church Rec Center
So the SO and I just came back from a weeks stay in FL where I met his family. I love them, they love me. It’s a mutual Love-Thang! No proposal but we did have THE TALK!
My SO caught me visiting The Hive and I tried to pass this off like a support group for girls in my situation (WAITING) and we started to have it out.
Now mind you, we watched a mutual friend’s relationship rot away because the girl was pressuring for the ring. And another one of our friend’s relationship is rotting because the girl is rushing for the wedding. So much so that they postponed the wedding.
He sites money being the issue (don’t they all!) and that I need to trust him. I explained to him how difficult it is when everyone is asking ME when we are getting married, already. I frankly could wait a while for to jump to Mrs. but I can not stand the word girlfriend. I told him I am tried of being his girlfriend and do not fit the title anymore. I dropped the subject once the tears started coming and he got a call and went outside to take it. When he came back I said I was going out. I had a few places to go, the beach was 20 minutes away and my cousins house was about 90 minutes from his family’s house but he stopped me. He said he was planning to take out a loan when we get back. That he loves me and that I need to trust him. And not to ruin my own surprise.
I do believe him. I am not rushing to the aisle, I just want the commitment. There is still stuff I would want us to do individually before we actually get married, like pay off our individual debt and me graduate grad school first. So I wouldn’t mind a 2 or 3 year engagement.
The rest of the vacation went wonderfully without incident and we got back home. Happy to be back at our place and with our kitty.
The next day (yesterday) my SO sends me a text:
SO – As for the thing we discussed, I am taking out a loan in Sept. so it wont interfere with your birthday or our anniversary, gift wise.
ME – whatever you feel is best, baby. I love you and am happy. You and I are in it for the long haul. But that wouldn’t be a bad gift, though that’s your tune to play.
SO – It will be hard to get it by Aug L
Me – then don’t worry about it. I am sorry for putting pressure on you before. Just know that I love you
SO – It’s something I want to do, so don’t worry.
Our 5 year anniversary was my deadline for when I was gonna sit him down and have A SERIOUS CONVO, but the convos already be had so yes, I think he is going to pop the question sometime before the year is done!
Right now I am doing my best to relax, to smile at all times around him, stay sexy and keep him “happy”. The staying sexy part comes into play because I am on the Mr. Bee Plan. I am working out and working on me. It will happy by the end of the year. That’s what I needed to hear. I feel like that released the valve so the ‘Crazy’ that has been storing up inside me could escape and now all that’s left is the happy, giddy, peace of SOON…But soon enough that I can see the end.
Happy Hiving and thanks again for listening.