- 10 years ago
- Wedding: July 2010
I’m back from my honeymoon. I’ll have a big old recap when I get some photos back. The wedding and reception events were perfect. Hands down, perfect. I couldn’t be happier, and hopefully I have some tips to share that will be helpful.
Here is the long part, could use help.
There was only one big problem with the wedding: my mom. Not the sort of thing you can plan for. The short of it is that seconds after I donned my dress, I started tearing up and exclaimed, “this is surprisingly emotional!” My BMs, mom, and female photographer are all standing around and everyone responds happily, but my mom is in the corner rolling her eyes and making a big sour face. I snapped, telling her this was a big deal, and she said “it isn’t, you’ve only been living with him for several years.”
Background: My mom and I have a great relationship, we are actually friends and talk almost everyday, though we live on opposite sides of the country, my parents like my husband, they are happy we got married, they paid for the wedding, and I never heard a peep of negativity about anything. So basically, she floored me. I’m not a super emotional person, and I’m not really a romantic, so I can understand if she was surprised that I was emotional. But the negative reaction was a shock.
After the incident with my mom, I was taking pictures and struggling not to cry. She really ruined those hours pre-ceremony for portraits. I’m sure there are a couple of good photos, but that was largely money down the drain. I ended up apologizing to her for snapping just to try to quell my emotions prior to the ceremony. From there on I was okay, and the ceremony and reception were a blast.
But I have to admit, almost two weeks later, I am still really hurt. I talked to her this morning to let her know we got back from the honeymoon safe, and it was tough. I maintained a chipper tone, but it was hard to deal with her. It’s as if now everything she does is grating.
I honestly haven’t really fought with my mom for over a decade. I’m not sure how to approach this. But I do know that confronting her would bring on a fight. She is not one to take another person’s emotions seriously.
Basically, I could use some advice on whether to drop it and work towards forgiving her, or if I need to bring it back up. I’m happy to provide any additional details. Thanks in advance.