Post # 1
I laughed when I first heard about “post-wedding blahs” but I seriously have them. It’s been 3 weeks since the big day, we’re back from our honeymoon, the presents are unwrapped and strewn about my house, now I’m back at work and literally miserable.
How do I scratch this feeling? I’m overwhelmingly happy about being married. I just have the “now what do I have to look forward to” moments. Seriously, it’s bad. I don’t even like going to the gym anymore and the thought of going to another wedding makes my skin crawl.
I feel like I’m mourning my wedding.. is that possible? Am I vain or just plain crazy?!
Any other new brides out there feel this way?
Post # 3
I would suggest finding a hobby or activity that you enjoy and doing that. Or learn something new. Take a class like a cooking class, wine tasting class, or yoga or pilates. Do something for yourself! Maybe you could fantasy plan your next vacation? Or maybe there was something you had wanted to do for a while but because of wedding planning didnt have time. Just try to keep yourself busy!
Post # 4
I’m worried about getting these too – maybe you can do what my Fiance & I did. Right now we both have 1 Year Goals and 5 Year Goals – we sat down and made a list together and are working towards accomplishing them. We’re going to do the same for our first year of marriage. For instance, one of our Year 1 Goals is to build our 6 month emergency fund and what I’ve deemed our ‘Oh, $h!t’ fund (about $2500 for crazy things like car repairs or what have you). We also want to take a dance class together.
Don’t think of it as ‘What do I have to look forward to now’ – look at is as one challenge you’ve conquered and make a list of other ones to do either on your own or with your Darling Husband.
Post # 5
It happened to me, too, but it’s totally normal!
You just spent a long time planning and focusing on this big event in your life and now it’s over. What helped me was to start new projects (organizing the house, planning for next trip) and to keep busy in every day life – school, training, career. Life will settle in and it actually gets more exciting post-wedding, it just takes a little time to let it go.