Post # 1
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Wannabee
i really wish i didn’t feel this way – but the wedding is over and at the time i had a wonderful time – really fantastic – but now that its over i can’t help but focus on the things that went wrong opposed to the things that went right – basically it rained so my dreams of frollicking in the grass playing bocce ball were totally shot and generally it ended up being less of a classy event as i had hoped and things were left out – i didn’t get to walk down an aisle of fresh rose petals (i had ordered them but they couldn’t be inside), my lavender satchels that i had worked so hard on weren’t tossed (once again inside), the photobooth was moved inside so many people didn’t see it, my carefully strung pics of family and friends that had been so pretty got wet and looked half-assed, my escort cards that were supposed to be wrapped around a tree were on a table, the nice bathrooms at the venue were harder to get to so everyone used the inside bathrooms which were less than nice, and my pretty mason jars filled with ranunculus which were to be strung up in trees were placed on the tables with strings hanging down (not so attractive). i don’t know everyone (with the exception of some grumpy uncles) seemed to have fun and some friends have told me how much they loved it but i just can’t help but focus on unelegant it seemed and just wasn’t what i had hoped it to be after all my careful planning. does anyone else feel this way? i need to get out of this funk!
Post # 3
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Busy bee
Awww…I’m sorry to hear about all this! I haven’t been in your shoes, but I’m sure it is easy to focus on all that went wrong. But try to remember all the good things! You are married to the love of your life, you had all your friends and family with you, etc etc. I guess it’s a good reminder to all of us planners not to get too caught up in the details because you never know what can happen! 🙂
Post # 4
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Sugar bee
Ugh, I totally understand. I’m pretty sure everyone on WB thinks my wedding was the worst day of my life, with all the complaining I’ve done. 🙂 It was a very special day to me, but for the first month and a half I could only see the negative stuff. Getting my photos back helped a lot, because it made me focus on the one point of the wedding that was perfect: the ceremony when I actually married my husband!
Since you only got married last weekend, I can tell you that time helps some. I think it distances your memory from the details that went wrong, so you can concentrate more on the over-all picture (which was hopefully a positive experience). Also, if you can do something else for a little while, that helps, too. Right now we’re working on really "settling in" and organizing our whole house with all our wedding presents. That helps take my mind off the negative wedding stuff as well.
Finally, when you get you pictures back, I think you’ll get a slightly different perspective. Even though things went wrong on my wedding day, all of my pictures show a very happy, very smiley, Mr. and Mrs. Spring. And looking at my ceremony pictures really helps me remember the greatest part of the day. Hopefully, when you see your pictures you’ll see all the positive things about the wedding, instead of concentrating on the negatives details. It will put things back into perspective about what really matters and what is just extra icing on the cake. 🙂
Post # 5
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Newbee
Oh my gosh, I totally understand! I’ve been doing the same thing!!! Just think of how happy you were that day though! The whole time I was there, I was just thinking this is perfect & I’m so frickin happy…. But after it was all said & done all the little things really kept bugging me. Nothing we can do about it now though, just remember the most important thing is that you got married & all your guests had fun! :~)