Post # 1
Well, I am just about two months out from my wedding, and I think the post wedding blues have kicked in! My wedding was amazing. It was everything I wanted it to be, it was relaxed, elegant, and people had a blast. I was fine when the wedding was first over, in fact, relieved in most ways. I was tired of planning, tired of people asking questions, so getting away on my Honeymoon was heaven and I just wanted to be alone with my husband! We got home, got the pictures, and the buzz died down. I find myself feeling a bit blue. No real reason, but just feel like I miss having something SO wonderful and huge to look forward to. Our lives are great, we both have great jobs, great friends, we have a blast. But I find myself getting jealous of other friends that are still planning their weddings, and I just want to be the bride again. How awful is that?
I also find myself wishing I had different chairs, wishing we did this or that slightly differently, wishing I put more lip gloss on before my photos. Things that never crossed my mind the day of, and now I am looking back and finding things I would have changed…which is crazy because the morning after I said I wouldn’t have changed a thing!
Did any of you have this? How long does it last? What can I do to get over it? I can talk openly with my husband about it, he thinks it is funny (which it kind of is), but I know that I am not myself right now. I just miss the lead up to the wedding, I miss dreaming about it, if I am honest, I think I also miss the attention. Help!!!
Post # 3
Well, being the bride is awesome so I can understand. Maybe there is something new and exciting taht you can focus on for a bit. Like decirating your apartment etc, that usually helps I find.
Post # 4
@2011nycbride: Its not awful and I am honestly not looking forward to mines because all my friends say it will happen. Planning a wedding became a big part of you for awhile so it is not uncommon. Thankfully you have the memories of your wedding and the bees to live through them
Post # 5
Thanks ladies, I think it will fade in time. Part of the problem is that my best friend is getting married in a month, and it is so close to my wedding that it just makes me miss mine. I am even looking forward to hers being over. I can’t believe I even admit that!!!Horrible!
Our apartment is already decorated, we have a dog, I joke that maybe I should have a baby!!! But my husband isn’t up for that just yet!
Post # 6
I, too, worry about the post-wedding blues. Is there a hobby you could take up? That might help. I’m hoping that post-wedding I will go back to cross stitching more and, although this might make me sound too 1950s housewife, learning to cook. You could do something crafty like quilting or canning or scrapbooking (ooh, maybe scrapbooking the wedding?). Or if you aren’t into the whole arts and crafts thing maybe you could take up jogging/tennis/swimming/bocce ball, etc. Or maybe you could become an expert in something–Border Collies, vegetable growing, WW II, children’s books with strong female protagonists…Sorry I’m getting carried away here…
Post # 7
I was happy for it to finally be over, but I did miss being the bride a little. Sometimes I am tempted to pretend to be engaged and go try on wedding dresses again! Although I feel like fate would kick me in the behind if I did that, so it’s just a fantasy 🙂