Post # 1
I had such a wonderful experience planning my DIY/budget wedding with my mom, and I’m so happy with how everything went! But now, we’re back from the honeymoon and back to real life and I feel like I don’t know how to function normally. Part of me wishes I could just do it all again, because I had so much fun and also because it all went by so fast once the wedding week arrived. 8 months of planning and preparation for just one day! The wedding itself felt like it went by in fifteen minutes! And now I go on my computer now and see folders and folders of all the inspiration I collected, and the color boards I made, etc. And now what? Just throw them all away? I keep thinking about how my wedding was a one-time thing and I’ll never get to do it again and I feel really bummed out. I want to go back to October and pretty much live on Pinterest and continue collecting inspiration and sharing ideas with my mom. I don’t want it to be over! Is there such a thing as post-wedding depression? Not that I feel depressed per se, I just feel like there’s a big void in my life, and that now life without my upcoming wedding is just so boring. Am I weird?
Also, I have no interest in being a wedding planner. I’m fairly disorganized (my mom really helped out in that department).
Post # 3
Maybe you could make it a fun hobby to plan and throw themed parties for all your friends or family a couple times a year. I bet people might even want to contribute small funds to make it into a fun trandition. It doesn’t have to be a wedding to be beautifully decorated and planned 🙂
Post # 4
I felt like that all the time when I was back from my nice vacations. You planned for the vacation, looked forward to it, enjoyed it and then back to normal life again. I think it’s totally normal.
Post # 5
PPs are right; maybe another project or deadline to get excited about again?
I’m working on our “dreams” binder. Every picture from every vacation in a cool binder with an inscription about the moment. Considering the time we’ve been together and plans we have for this year alone – it’s a mighty big project.
Post # 6
Yes, what you’re experiencing is very common and completely normal. You invested so much of yourself in the planning of your wedding that it is natural to feel some “let down” when the day has finally come and gone. I am happy to hear that you were very pleased with how everything went, however, as not everyone had that experience, and what you’re feeling can be very painful for brides whose weddings did not turn out to be exactly as they had planned. Since it sounds as if you have no regrets, focus on the joys of all that you’ve experienced and really begin to turn your attention to beginning your new life with your Darling Husband. 🙂
Post # 7
@Nat_can: Me too. I think I have “post-honeymoon blues” instead.
Post # 8
You get it. It fades. Pick something new and fun to fill the time! For me that was making baby cross stitches for the two babies that were announced as “on the way” right around wedding time. And then making parent photo albums.
One of those baby cross stitches may not be finished. And the child is now 6 months old.
Post # 9
I’m nervous about post wedding blues as well. I’m having a DIY/budget wedding and I’m having a BLAST. I agree with the PP who said you should plan more parties (smaller, obviously) that way you can keep creating. Or maybe pick up a hobby! I’m actually really enjoying all this crafting stuff so I’m looking into what I can do using the skills I’m developing after the wedding.
As far as my wedding folder on my computer, I think I’m going to burn it onto a cd or two and put it into a wedding scrapbook. I want to make a scrapbook documenting my journey through planning the wedding and that CD would make a good addition to it!
Post # 10
Here is one more with the dreaded post wedding blues….
Post # 11
I am like you too :-(.. feeling terrible..also dealing with some hormonal problems as i’ve recently changed from Implanon to a birthcontrol sticker..also my usual night terrors and terrible sleeptalking, which have hurt my husband really bad..things are weird between us and i am brokenhearted..feeling miserable..I am glad to know about weddingblues, though! I am not the only one, which is good! I know i must find another project soon but what’s going on in my life doesn’t help…..
Post # 12
I felt (and still feel sometimes) the EXACT SAME WAY. I haven’t even been able to put my wedding dress in the guest room closet. It’s hanging in the doorway, so I see it everytime I walk up the stairs. I still stand in front of it and just stare…it seems like just yesterday I was still scheduling fittings and only saw it once every few weeks.
You’re so right about it going by so fast, and I can’t seem to shake the feeling like you…this was my wedding. My only wedding. That’s it for me. I was a bride, and now I’ll never be a bride again. I’m a newlywed now, but every day that goes by, I’m a little bit less and less of a newlywed. It’s very bittersweet and I’ve had a hard time dealing with it. I cant bring myself to throw away any planning things. I’ve got every single item I collected over the 11 months and will be dedicating a box to it. It will hurt to box it up, but I know I can’t just leave it out like I”m still planning a wedding. I had my time, and others will have theirs and then others will have theirs…I can’t go on forever and even though I’m happy to start a new life with my husband…it’s so damn sad sometimes. I feel like my biggest life moment is over and that’s….kind if it for me now.
No we’re moving and I am consumed with decorating ideas for our new place…but once I’m done with that I’m worried about getting really sad all over again. I’m fortunate to have had such a perfect wedding, but I miss it!
Post # 13
I can’t say I really enjoyed the planning process, so maybe that is why I don’t feel the same. I enjoyed some aspects of it, but as a whole I wouldn’t do it again.
I liked a PP idea of starting a dream binder. I have plenty to keep me busy, but we started a bucket list and there are tons of scrapbooking projects I am doing for the wedding. I feel myself getting a lot more crafty now that I have the time to do it.
Do a dream binder and get a list together of ALL the projects you have ever wanted to try or do but you couldn’t because you didn’t have time Pintrest might give you some great ideas 🙂
Post # 14
Post wedding blues here but its mostly because of our groomsmen being in a very serious accident days after the wedding. Ive started spinning and knitting again for myself which is keeping me busy (my Maid/Matron of Honor bought me 1lb of fibre the day after the wedding).
Post # 15
I think this is totally normal! The wedding something you agonize over and look forward to for such a long time, and it’s over so quickly. I agree with PPs who said look for some new projects. We moved (which kept me busy), I started going to classes at the gym, we’re getting scuba certified, and planning a vacation.
It helps to find some new things to look forward to. I like to browse Pinterest for project ideas! The letdown can be tough at first but it definitely fades. Now that I see my friends stressing over their own weddings, I’m glad to enjoy being a guest and not having to do it all over again 🙂
Post # 16
Relived to find i am not crazy!!!!!! Of course, i have other issues going around which makes post-wedding blues even worse..but at least i am not the only one, right???