(Closed) Post-Wedding Blues?

posted 9 years ago in Married Life
Post # 17
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Your not crazy.  I cried ALOT!  Especially since my dh was in another state.  I spent so much time planning and on the day everyone loved on me..I was a princess and then…boom…reality hits.  However, finding new projects, working on the home, getting another degree, vacations, art classes, planning business so you can help other brides, photography, etc etc.  That’s what I’m doing as I’m still sorta in that stage.

Post # 18
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I have felt the same way even though my Husband and I just had a small wedding in Vegas just the two of us with an at home reception later and I think it’s normal. I didn’t like all the planning that much really, I think I miss being a bride and feeling more beautiful than ever on my wedding day most of all. I really liked looking at wedding dresses and decor for the reception. My Husband and I love traveling so fortunately I try to stay focused on planning our vacations ahead of time. I also try to focus on finding fun things for us to do together and I love to read or go shopping in my free time.

Post # 19
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2013

@Lyssabee:  Kind of like the post-Christmas letdown when we were kids I would think!

This is one of the reasons why I want to have a small wedding… this sort of thing worries me.

My best advice is to focus on your next goal. I am a very goal oriented person and love to have something to look forward to.

You could plan your next big trip… or even a little one (like a long weekend away). Basically just find something new to immerse yourself in. Fill up your time w. a new hobby or join an exercise class or something. I know this won’t totally replace all the time you spent planning, but the idea is to get busy and focus on something new.

As far as the inspiration stuff goes, keep it. I would. It would be fun to look back on it in several years 🙂

Post # 20
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386 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I was going to suggest you take up wedding planning, but you said you have no interest in it

Post # 21
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I commented on a few other threads about this, just saying how I did not expect to feel post wedding blues…but I do! I was talking to my friend about it the other week and it felt good to admit to someone that I was feeling sad. She told me that a friend of hers got the blues so bad she had to go talk to a professional. I’m not that bad, but it felt comforting to know that others have felt like me.

I did not expect the blues because I am such a busy person…but I find myself being sad quite a bit. I think in a little while it will fade. Right now it’s just hard to see other people’s wedding photos online and stuff because I know that my day is over…and I never expected to feel this way after the wedding, ever! I was a pretty relaxed bride and I was not even excited until the day before…I just thought the day would end and I’d go back to normal…but I am finding myself with a lot of extra emotion lately.

Post # 22
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

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@soyjoy222:  

Hello, fellow bee 🙂 Feeling better? I am alone with our 5 years old as my husband is away (work) and am trying to fill in the void..having quality time with my lovely girl! That said, i finally managed the courage to seek a therapist – not because of post-wedding blues, but hey, as they’re here, let’s face them as well!!! Wish me luck and hopefully in a couole of days/weeks we’ll all be feeling a lot better.

Do you bees think men have this as well???? I felt ridiculous talking about it with my husband.. is it a girl thing?

Post # 23
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Bumble bee

I enjoyed the planning process and DIY stuff but I was soooo happy to have that all behinde me. Were you guys already living together?  We were so everything was fun and different after the wedding and my pinterest board just transitioned to decortating projects. Plus I had bridal shower and baby showers I was throwing back to back so I got my planning fix in. I do admit I HATED seeing wedding stuff on pinterest after I got married. I still have to scan my eyes to other things. It was super fun looking at all that. Now just waiting for my next friend to get engaged to start wedding pinning again:)

Post # 24
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

By the time my wedding rolled around, I was ready for it to be done. It was weird not having anything to obsess over anymore. I think I was more sad when my honeymoon was over though.

Post # 25
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

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@Rivendeler:  I think it can be a guy thing, too. My DH and I really had a wedge between us for a few weeks after the wedding…I think a lot of it was us recovering, fighting off the blues of it being over, and general exhaustion. We just needed our space but things are back to normal now.

I’m slowly starting to feel better. School starts up again soon and then I’ll be busy with that! This month was all about recovering from the wedding, but now I am starting to feel like my old self.

It still is strange thinking that it is really over and I wont ever do it again (hopefully, haha).

Post # 26
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

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@Rivendeler:  I don’t think men feel it as much.  I think we put sooo much more into it.  We’ve thought about it for a long time, invested a lot of time into it, and they kinda sit back and let us handle things. 

Post # 27
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I went through it too! I tend to pretty much obsess over whatever is going on in my life, so when the wedding came & went it was the strangest feeling. We wanted to work on purchasing a home, so I immediately threw myself into house-hunting and thinking about decorating schemes.

You just have to redirect all your energy & focus on other things. It gets better! 🙂 

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