Post-wedding-blues

posted 3 months ago in Emotional
Post # 2
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Busy bee

Im definitely a perfectionist, and an anxious filled person. So they do NOT go well together. I can see how that couldve made you feel uneasy post wedding.

It’s good, though, that you’re aware of your personality and how you feel and why you feel that way in this situation. It gives you the advantage of analyzing what you feel, why, and how to move past it. 

Sadly, I view weddings much the same in where I feel like its a big “ohmygoodnesohmygoodnessohmygoodness….” and then its all over. 

Like the ball that was thrown to you, slipped out of your hands, and before you know it, the game is done. 

I would work on looking at all the positives and memorable moments, and definitely the BRIGHTSIDE of things 🙂

Post # 3
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2017

bellabelle12 :  time to start saving and plan your next trip! Get your mind excited about something new.

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2019 - City, State

Bee, I am definitely with you!!! Our wedding was February and once we got back from the honeymoon, I dealt with these same feelings. After a few weeks back in our normal routine, I started feeling better. 

 

I was sick on our wedding day, so I keep thinking how we didn’t get enough pictures. We haven’t gotten our pictures back yet, so I just keep hoping we got enough. 

 

The amazing thing is, you are married and you have your entire lives ahead of you!!! 

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

bellabelle12 :  My husband and I spent the weeks after our honeymoon sitting in coffee shops and drinking fun lattes while writing thank-you notes.  It was kind of a fun decompression activity and let us reflect on our wedding in a productive way.  We took our time and wrote long notes to everyone, and discussed what to write to each person.  It took us like 6 weeks to do it this way, but it was a peaceful bonding experience.

Post # 6
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: February 2019

I felt sad when my wedding was over and I planned a quick elopement in 3 weeks, so I didn’t have much of a build up, but I felt sad getting back to normal life and just wanted to to the wedding day all over again. I also really didn’t like my dress and my hair went wrong on the day. It’s been 2 months now and I only remember the good parts. The memories fade far too quickly. Focus on being a newlywed and enjoy these precious weeks with your husband. Congratulations! 

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2018

I, too, am a perfectionist and experienced some post-wedding blues, especially after the honeymoon-high died down. I kept an open communication with my husband about my feelings, and while he couldn’t completely relate, he reminded me of all the bright spots in our day, we planned our next mini-getaway trip together, and after quite a few months I realized none of those things that once bothered me really matter in the end. I married my best friend that day and it really all was perfectly imperfect!

volvo321 :  I was also terribly sick on our wedding day, the honeymoon, and the month after. Unfortunately, I look a bit dazed and sick in some of our photos and we simply ran out of time taking our couple shots after the ceremony (we didn’t do a first look), so we have very few “portraits” of the two of us- that is something I’ve had a hard time dealing with but eventually even that has become easier to cope with. 

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

bellabelle12 :  Yes on the post wedding blues. I even wrote thread on that too just like you, hahah. Let me assure you though, it gets better. I was kinda lost for a little bit there (looking for a new “project” I suppose) but every week it got better. I never saw myself as “that woman” who was so wedding crazy as to have the blues when it was over, but yeah. Apparently I am.  

(btw congrats on your wedding and best wishes!!!)

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