Post # 1
A week ago yesterday we got married. It was wonderful. I had a great time. I triumphed over my ambivalence about my dress and actually felt super-glamorous on my wedding day.
And then we came back to reality (honemooning in June after our semester is over). At first, I was just exhausted. Now, I’m a little blue. As much as I found the wedding planning process stressful, the wedding itself was a big thing to look forward to. And now I feel a void. I miss having the wedding as something to think and hope and worry about. Add on top of that, that I am in a job I don’t particularly love and that Fiance live in a region we don’t like. I just feel blah…
Anyone else experience post-wedding blues? How’d you get out of it?
Post # 3
I know what you mean. You have this big exciting thing to look forward to and when it is over, it feels like there isn’t anything left. Just think about your honeymoon and try to think about other future plans to get that planning need out!
Post # 4
Thanks, MissAsB! You put it perfectly. I need to focus on something new and exciting to help feel a little less deflated.
Post # 5
I totally know what you mean. I came back to medical school and had to take a test the MONDAY after my wedding. And now I have to take the licensing board in May. The bad news is that life hit back pretty hard lol, and I am no longer on the cloud 9 I was on 2 weeks ago. The good news is that at least I have to focus on something.
The other day, I said to my husband, “I know this sounds spoiled. But I miss being the bride.”
And he said, “You will always be the bride to me.”
And I realized that at least to one other person, every day will be like our wedding day. I am trying to hold on to that. And I am trying to make him feel like the groom everyday. I know everyday can’t be our wedding day, but perhaps we can at least FEEL that way.
Post # 6
@Red Cactus, that’s really sweet! What a neat way of looking at it.
Post # 7
I know what you mean…
I remember posting the exact same thing when I came back from our honeymoon… I couldn’t stop hanging out on Weddingbee, but I stopped hanging out in the wedding related section, and focused more on the Nesting… Now I’m back everywhere, to “share my wisdom”, if someone will take it, lol!
Find a new project, something exciting to focus on. Or many projects… I’m decorating the house, gardening, planning our trip to Europe next summer. School starts again in May.
My husband told me we could get married every year if I wish… So sweet. But truly, I’d rather keep the sweet memories of that ONE special day, the real thing..
Post # 8
You have the wedding pictures to look forward to!
Post # 9
@artsprout.love: good point. I’m anxious to see those.
@egb: Thanks for commiserating. I actually came back on weddingbee just to post this. I felt even bluer when I opened up to the blog. You’re right. I definitely need a new project.
Post # 10
I may be weird, but I was so relieved when the wedding was over! I still have to get through a “meet the happy couple” party next month before the wedding is truly OVER for me, but I haven’t been particularly sad about not having the day to look forward to anymore. And anytime I miss wedding porn, I just come to Weddingbee to see what all the amazingly talented bees are doing!
Post # 11
I am not married yet, but I am anticipating this. Like PP’s have already said, being a newlywed and having no wedding planning means you probably have time to try new things! When I’m married I’ll also have just finished school, so reading, photography, art, biking, cooking, decorating…I can’t wait for time to do all of it again. Maybe look for an organization in town you’re interested in to volunteer at? Something to focus your energy on that also helps others?
Post # 12
I haven’t got married yet, but I can kinda relate. I’m the type of person who always needs SOMETHING to look forward to or I start getting REALLY depressed and moody. I blame my otherwise stressful life! BUT one of the huge things I always LOVE looking forward to is trips – and you conveninetly have one coming up in a few short months! You could start doing some additional planning on what you will do during this trip. I’m sure that would help!
Once you get pack, perhaps pick a new project to tackle? Something that you’ll enjoy looking forward to and preparing for?
Post # 13
- Wedding: March 2010 - Calamigos Ranch
Yes and no. I really enjoyed planning my wedding, but I was so, so happy when it came and went. I don’t miss planning it at all. At the same time, it was surreal knowing how much time went into planning next to how quickly it was passing!
It was a little hard coming back from the honeymoon, too. I don’t think it was directly related to the wedding being over; it was more indirect–wonderful week off, followed by INTENSE STRESS from school. The transition was really rough on me for a few days, but it wasn’t too different than coming back after any other vacation. 😉
Post # 14
It hit me about a month to two months afterwards….not as many goals and stuff that has to get done! It’s depressing….no one even cares that you got your pics back, except a select few! Let me tell you when the wedding’s over, it’s over! I so enjoyed looking at the pro pics and framing some and putting them in my home, who cares if no one else notices them! I’m getting over it though….getting adjusted to married life! I still stop on here though once in a while!
Post # 15
Thanks, Bees! I’m going to try to find myself new projects, but also to remind myself that I do NOT miss planning the wedding.
Post # 16
Yes! I actually posted something about my post wedding depression as well 🙁
It totally stinks! We’ve been married for a little over a month now & I miss the HECK out of it. I’ve been trying to focus on other things though. Me & my husband are now looking to buy a house, & I’ve been looking on Craigslist for “projects” to do as well. I just bought a chest & a dresser to re-furbish & paint! 🙂 I’ve also been focusing more energy on cleaning & keeping the house looking nice, as well as decorating.
It’s really hard to get over this BIG event you planned for forever, and then the day comes…and then it’s gone. Forever! So I really understand where you’re coming from, and it will probably take a while to get over…but you will move on, and find other things to get into 🙂 I’m also considering taking dancing classes! 🙂 I like to stay busy! You should find what interests you & make it a goal, that should fill the void…it has for me!