Post # 1
We had an ABSOLUTELY beautiful wedding. I couldn’t have asked for a more perfect day except that I wish it could have lasted longer.
I’m a little sad that I looked forward to wearing that dress for months, and now it’ll be boxed up, collecting dust in the attic or my closet. Let’s be real, when am I ever going to be able to dress up like that again?
Also, I gotta say, I’ve been looking at the candid shots taken by friends and family at the wedding, and I keep thinking “God, why do my arms look so BIG”, and ” Is there ONE shot that I don’t have a double chin in?”. I lost 15 pounds before the wedding, and I felt pretty great about that, but it seems the camera just added them right back on.
Finally, now that the wedding is over, I find myself wondering what websites I surfed during my downtime at work before I got engaged? Most of the good gossip sites are blocked, and there’s only so much news I can read.
Anyone else going through this?
Post # 3
It is tough being done with planning a huge event and then having nothing to do afterward. It’s like reconstructing your life again after being consumed in wedding planning.
Post # 4
Re: the wedding dress never getting worn again – Eff needing a big event! Wear it around the house if the mood strikes you! You wouldn’t be the first girl to vacuum in their wedding dress, I can tell you that. 😉
And I’m with you on what I used the internet for pre-wedding planning. That’s why I’m still here. Ok, that and the fact that this is an awesome community.
Post # 5
I totally hear you. I was just thinking to myself tonight that I need to find some new blogs. I also did the thing where I picked apart every detail I saw in photos. And then this weekend I watched Say Yes to the Dress, and it made me remember how amazing glamorous I felt on my wedding day. Holding on to that memory has made it easier to stop picking my photos apart.
Post # 6
Professor…I hear ya! I’m spending so much time every day reliving the wedding two weeks ago. We watched our wedding video over the last two nights (3 1/2 hours of the raw footage) and while I loved watching it, it made me sad, too. I’m sad that the wedding went so quickly! I’m sad too, that I won’t wear the dress again.
And dealing with this name change stuff is for the birds. So tedious…Definately feeling a little down after such a great wedding and honeymoon. But, I must say that I DON’T miss the craziness of the wedding planning. It was so nice to go home last night, make dinner and actually watch tv and relax!
Hang in there!
Post # 7
I went through a few months of this, but I found there are still so many wedidngs I have been able to help with and glean inspiration from all the sites I was reading as a bride-to-be. I also followed a lot of wedding bloggers who are now newlywed bloggers like me and I keep up with them!
Lastly, I started really getting into “nesting” type interests like gardening, cooking, and design/decorating and visit sites like Design Sponge and Creature Comforts to get my ‘kicks’.
As fun as the wedding planning was, marriage has been a lot more rewarding and fun. I hope you get to enjoy newlywed like just as much!
Post # 8
To echo LatteLove, nesting will soon become a channel for your creativity. Build your “war chest” so to speak… working on all the little domestic things that make for a great life together… such as eating well, sleeping well, etc. Plan special days/nights so that you CAN dress up again- once every 3 months is not too often for newlyweds. Believe it or not, these simple habits and things set up a good foundation for a good life. Eat and sleep well- no matter what your income level, it will make you feel better about your health and have you in a much better mood your entire lifelong. Accustom him to a social life right now so you don’t have to pull him out of ingrained habits later. We have a date night once a week after 32 years married- doesn’t have to be expensive- free concert in the park works for me… as long as I can wear a sundress and charm bracelet:-)
Post # 9
I worry about this happening myself. As much as I want to fast forward 3 1/2 months to reach my wedding day, I try to remember that it will go by so fast and I will be missing it once it’s over. Good suggestion about focusing on new projects as you build your new life together!
Post # 10
Good post, I really need this right now, since I am feeling the sadness of it all being over. I still find myself looking at wedding blogs! And so many things are up in the air for us (due to possible job location change) that we can really focus on our place looking like we want it to. But the date plans are something we really need to do, so thanks!
Post # 11
Ditto – I agree totally!! We just got back our pictures and LOVE them. It will definitely take us a few weeks to decide which of the 1,000 pics to print and put in our album. And our honeymoon is in June so that is still something exciting. After that, I fear the serious post party depression will set in for me.
Post # 12
I’ve been okay so far because we got back from the honeymoon and the following week was our annual charity cook-off event at work. Small Family business so my Dad and I did most of the work. This week I’m finally returning items we borrowed for the wedding and cook-off. But I too worry about not having anything to do because I quit the biggest time hog charity group and I worry that not having meetings every other week and 4 big events a year to do will drive me crazy. But at the same time I’m thankful to bring new changes. Like learning to cook.
Post # 13
I had the same “now what?” feelings in the month or two after the wedding, and then I just kinda forgot about it and settled into our new life together. I have to say though, as we approach the 1 year mark, the post-wedding blues are actually back in full force. I remember this time last year being so much fun, preparing for showers, doing fittings, working on details, and most of all having it to look forward to!! Ahh! I miss that!!!!