(Closed) Post Wedding Blues

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

When I was planning the wedding, people would ask me how the planning was going and I would say I can’t wait for it to be over so I can have my life back.  Well now that I got my life back, it’s kinda boring!

I found that taking up a project was the best thing to do.  I’m tackling more ambitious dinner recipes, shopping around for inexpensive decor for the house, taking up piano again, and a host of other small initiatives.  And now that my wedding photos are back, I can get started on our wedding album (our photographer released the copyright to us, so I’m designing the album myself).

Post # 4
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I hear you. It’s just a little sad that I’ll never plan a wedding or go on a honeymoon again πŸ™ I’m keeping busy and thinking it is something that will just fade with time.

Post # 5
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2010

Ladies remember that you can always do a vow renewal in 5, 10, 15, 20 years and plan a big party for that or even plan an awesome destination service!! I actually had to take a break from weddingbee (deleted my old account) because I couldnt deal with coming on here. There were aspects of my wedding I was very disappointed with at first and being on the bee only made my feelings worse. It was also hard seeing other brides-to-be post about being so excited or its so close and as excited as I am for all of those people, it was hard at first!!

Now, I am just looking for other things to plan and do. I planned a surprise birthday dinner for my husband last night and that gave me a lot of satisfaction! We are talking about future vacations and starting to save for them and we are also creating a savings plan for a house/the future/kids and that is very exciting too. I have tried to keep myself busy with other things and as time goes on your feelings will subside. I think that a lot of brides go through this and its totally normal! Just dont let yourself get into a funk about it!

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I am still putting wedding stuff away, so I’m still busy.  I just finally unpacked from the honeymoon yesterday.  I used the first couple of days just to relax and take it all in, but now that I’m putting things away, I’m so sad!  I just want to be back in that week before when all my family and friends were here and we were excited and happy!  I’m sad that we will never have all the people we love in one place ever again and it went too fast to really enjoy every single person as much as we wanted to. 

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I know that as soon as our wedding is done that I am going to go into a “deep depression” – as I like to joke… I am an event coordinator by trade and so planning our wedding has come so easily to me and I am loving every second of it! However, knowing that I will probably be sad that it is over, we have postponed our honeymoon until January (getting married in August) to have something else to look forward to and I know that we’ll start trying for a baby shortly after that, so that will give me something new to obsess over. 

I guess overall I am going to try to not look at is as the end of single life/planning/the wedding but as the beginning of something new. πŸ™‚

Post # 8
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

@PitBulLover: Good point about a possible vow renewel!

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

@Aleanan: Yeah I agree that you should look at it as a new beginning. Start thinking of planning an anniversary trip, or when you’ll have kids, decorate the house, learn to cook new things, plan a date night, etc. But, it is hard to transition from being crazy busy and planning, to just kinda bored right after. But, focus on your new husband and try new fun things πŸ™‚ One day I felt kinda down so I just bought some groceries and made a nice romantic dinner and gave him a massage. Something about having to DO something lol. Hope you feel better…

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I am terrified of it! I know it will happen but I just keep telling myself that once it of over I will just have to find a new major project. Like finding a house, or… having a baby… lol

Post # 14
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I’m feeling some post-wedding blues today. It seems to come and go. I went into Kroger to pick up a prescription and realized we didn’t have to buy anyone any thank yous, I didn’t need to buy anymore bridal magazines. It got me a little bit sad. I think I’m also missing the perfect paradise location of our honeymoon.

Post # 15
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I had a bit of PWB but Darling Husband and I are buying our first home so we’ve been busy with researching and dream decorating! πŸ˜€

Post # 16
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

@littlemissmoo: I wish we were at the house buying stage, but that probably won’t be for another 6 months to a year. I guess it’s something to start looking forward to and planning for.

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