Post # 1
So I was so concerned that since we have lived together for so long that after the wedding nothing would feel different. Luckily, I was wrong. It DOES feel different! Unluckily, not in the way I had hoped. I feel awkward and out of place. Nothing has really changed between us, sure we have new rings and I have a new name but that is it! Even before we got our puppy… I just felt, weird. Almost like we did something really strange or wrong but obviously we didn’t. We did something normal and awesome! I really hope this fades. Anybody ever felt similar?
Post # 3
So I am crazy? Damn… I was hoping I was slightly more sane!
Post # 4
Haha oh noo! First off, congrats!
I sort of know what you are saying…its suppose to feel really good, but it does feel a little weird. It took a good 3 weeks for us to get back to normal but since then we have been really happy. Doesn’t calling your SO your husband feel good?!
I can’t explain what we felt but things certainly did change, even though we live together as well. I felt like I needed to be the person he met when we started dating (constantly caring about how I look, or acting a little shy) when really we’ve been around each other in our “natural state” –showing who we really are, for the past 3 years haha. I have no idea why I thought this or why our behavior changed at first.
But I do think it all needs to sink in for a bit!
Post # 5
I can definitely sympathize, even if I can’t relate (I am one of the ones who marriage didn’t change anything at all as far was how we feel/operate as a couple). I am sure it will pass in time.
Post # 6
For me it was more the realization that “Oh my gosh, I really do have to answer to this person now… like, forever.” It was definitely an out of body experience when he moved into my apartment which had previously served as me and my former roommate’s bachelorette pad. I think I felt somewhat let down because I was struggling to find my role as a wife and then shortly after that, mother, but a big part of me felt like I was playing house. Happy to say after a couple months I got much more comfortable being a wife. Marriage just felt so grown up and I was worried I wouldn’t measure up. And I think he felt that way too!
Post # 7
My feelings were worst. We’ve lived together for abut 6 years when we got married and right afterwards all I felt was trapped. I just felt like I lost myself. Everyone asked me how married life was and all I can say was that it’s ok. My boss even said to me that I didn’t seem as happy as most just married people.
I just felt like I lost myself. Instead of being my own person I felt like I was part of a couple now. I started looking for new hobbies and going to gym classes and it’s back to normal now. Sometimes I forget that i’m married. (Ok that sounds bad but hopefully you know what I mean)
Post # 8
I know how you feel too. But I realized why. I feel like I had this thought in my head of what “marriage” was going to be. Then I realized, it was no different than what we were already doing. It seemed so anticlimactic. Because nothing changed, nothing feels different, nothing IS different, I felt wrong. I felt like something had to be wrong because nothing changed… nope… just not what I expected.