Post # 16
Did she consult your or your husband before she planned this brunch? Is this brunch for you and your husband or is it for her? Do what you want. If you don’t feel like going than don’t go. As far as all of this family time four time a week is way too much IMO. This should have been addressed before you got married but it’s not too late to set boundaries. People are not entitled to your time just because they are your family.
Post # 17
Don’t go. It’s rude to leave out your family. You don’t want to be there. Anyway, you just let her take over and run your wedding–if you don’t start setting limits, she will run your life and raise your children. I’d take this situation to DWIL; they’ll help you establish boundaries between your new nuclear family and your very pushy Mother-In-Law.
Post # 18
I don’t blame you for wanting to chill the day after your wedding. If you decide to go, the next time she brings it up, mention seating, and ask if it would be a good idea to rent tables chairs so that both sides of the family, plus friends have plenty of seating. Offer to her the wedding table centerpieces so that she carts it home the night of the wedding. Less for you to do. 😊
Post # 19
gunnabamissus : The first day may not be important to other Bees but if it is to you, that is all that matters! I have known how I want to spend the next morning for years and it definitely does not involve a family event. I would personally be declining and not thinking twice about it. The same way you can’t force anyone to attend your wedding, she cannot force anyone to attend her brunch. It is not selfish to politely decline an invite.
Also I am so sorry for your family’s loss but it is okay to still have your own space. I think you and FH need an agreement, such as no more than once a week, or “have plans” occasionally so he can go over without you. Four times a week is a crazy amount to see anyone…