Post # 1
Since we’ve sent our formal invitations, we’ve gotten nothing but declines to our destination wedding. I’m a bit saddened because so many people were soooo sure in the beginning that they would be coming with us. However, I knew that because we chose to get married away, there was a strong possibility that we would be guest-less. I’m still a little bummed about it, but moving on….
Since I know people want to be there, but can’t for various reasons, I’ve been leaning more and more toward having a post wedding dinner celebration when we get back. One of the reasons we decided to get married away is to save money. So I figured instead of a formal AHR, I would get a reservation for our close family and friends at our fav restaurant, treat folks to bottles of wine / beer, and everyone can pay for their own dinner. No we are not expecting gifts of any kind.
My question is how soon after we return should we do this? We’ll be back on May 22nd. When should we inform everyone. Any advice? Thanks bunches 🙂
Post # 3
I’d give people at least 4 weeks notice about the dinner reservation. You probably won’t have to send out real invites since it’s informal and it would cost more… you might send e-mails or some type of online invite.
It’s really up to you when you should have your AHR. My Fiance and I are having our AHR the 1st Saturday after we return from the honeymoon, but i know some people don’t have theirs till months later. But since it’s an informal dinner with everyone picking up their own dinner, I would try to have it at least within a month of the wedding. :o)
Post # 4
We had friends that did a post “reception” after their destination wedding in Jamaica… if you really want to call it that
It was small, maybe 50 people, in some little venue (in dwntwn austin) although I think someone’s backyard would even work, they cooked the food (them and their families) an all Jamaican Cuisine, like 4/5 different things.. more like finger foods or better yet a spread (which they said didn’t cost much)… jerk meatballs and stuff like that. Infact it was almost 10 years ago and I still remember how good those meatballs were.
They had a friend “dj” but now ipod is the “way” to go… did the “first dance” and had a small 1 tier cake for cutting (my and my Fiance are doing the 1 tier and it’s literally costing us 20 bucks! well my friend that’s gifting us)
Other than that we all mingled and enjoyed them and their time together.
I think you could totally do some WAY reasonable, enjoy your friends & loved ones, and bring a little of jamaica to them! 😉
Post # 5
Thanks for the input.
@ MsFoxxy,, I do not plan on wasting any money on paper invitations. This will be very informal. Before we leave, we’ll send an email notifying everyone of our plans, then send an evite upon return.
@amnystik , Sounds like things turned out well for your friend. We won’t be doing all of that. I just know that our family and friends really wanted to be there but couldn’t, so this is our way of celebrating with them. No cake cutting, no first dance and all that jazz. We’ll give everyone an opportunity to say some words if they wish. 🙂