Post # 1
My fiance and I work in the same office (yes, we met there, dating is allowed.) so we share the same coworkers. This seems to lead many of them to believe that they will be on our guest list.
BUT, we’re planning a small, family wedding half way across the country. We both grew up in Maine, so there’s not much appeal to marrying in Texas and demanding that both families travel down here.
The inquiries about the upcoming wedding have been nothing but kind and supportive, so when we’ve told them that we’re planning a small family event in Maine, most smile and wish us well. But a few have asked if we’ll be having a second wedding or reception locally. Is the second reception common? Is it necessary? Would it even be appropriate?
While I am on friendly terms with my office mates, I don’t normally socialize with them outside of work. How shall I handle this?
(Thus far, I’ve been able to claim that I’ve not made any solid plans, and I’m just happy to be engaged.)
Post # 3
- Wedding: November 2011 - Florida Aquarium
I would think they would throw you guys a “congrats” party (or lunch), especially since you both met and work there. I don’t think you’re under any obligation to go out of your way for them, though.
Post # 4
i thought about doing this, then realized i would go crazy planning another event! if you want to, some sort of celebration at your place (drinks and apps, or a luncheon or something) would be nice, but it certainly isn’t required. Might make your work situation a little less awkward though.
Post # 5
^^ agreed – go out for lunch or something. I would only invite workmates who I hung out with outside of work events.
Post # 6
Tell them you don’t plan on having a second reception, if they want to have a party at the office for you, they’ll do it themselves.
Post # 7
In my circles, if a couple lives in a particular location but chooses to do a small-family-type weddidng in another place… it’s not uncommon to throw a local reception (for friends and whatever family would care to join them). It’s not an uncommon question – but you certainly don’t need to throw and extra party because of it.
If you have friends in Houston that you aren’t inviting to the wedding but would want to celebrate with – you could certainly have a Houston reception.
But, just because they are asking, doesn’t mean they are hinting either!
Post # 8
Maybe you can order a cake for the office someday after you come back. Its a small gesture but people would appreciate it. My problem is that I am inviting half of my small office of 15 ppl…so I am going to order a cake for the office after I come back from my honeymoon. Just an idea…
Post # 9
I would not feel obligated to throw a reception at home! Like a PP above, if they want to throw you a party in the office afterwards then they can take care of it!