(Closed) Post-Wedding Depression

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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10851 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

I’d have to say you had a test and you both passed. This demonstrates to me that you two are a good unit. Sometimes in relationships (marriage, friendship, whatever) we have bad times and if you can work through them together as a team, you’ll come out stronger on the other side. You guys had a bad day, you had a fight, it snowballed, but you did the right thing and worked through it and the next day, you got married to your best friend. You’ve demonstrated you’re in it for the long haul. The timing was definitely bad, I totally agree, but I think the lesson learned is way more important than the action itself πŸ™‚

Post # 4
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1030 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

Okay I’m not married yet, but most of my friends are – and almost every. single. one of them had some huge blowout the week/night before the wedding. It’s the culmination of SO much stress, and such a bit commitment, that I think it’s natural to freak the heck out a bit and blow up at each other. One friend (who is on the Bee and shall remain nameless πŸ˜‰ ) had such a huge fight with her Darling Husband the night of the Rehearsal Dinner, *I* drove her there instead of him because she was about to scratch his eyes out. It happens. It’s normal. Don’t let the guilt/shame of this affect your marriage now  – it’s over, your wedding day was beautiful, so move on. Definitely talk to HIM about it too as I’m sure he’ll say “what fight? oh, that?” or somehow help you to move on and process it. After all, that’s his job now! Hugs!

Post # 5
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491 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

oh i’m so sorry to hear this πŸ™  I hope you can focus on the positive aspects of your day and try to find a way to forget or just not think about this.  That’s the best advice I can give you: when you start to dwell on this, force yourself to start thinking about a part of the day that makes you happy.  we all have things about our weddings that, when we look back on them, get us heated.  And that’s how i deal with it, and it works really well!  I think what you went through was normal, hell i would have ripped him a new one if my (then) Fiance had pulled something like that!  the time before a wedding is stressful and emotions can run high.  You’ll get past it πŸ™‚

Post # 6
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10367 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

I think you need to remember this: Your wedding is only one day of a very, very long relationship. I honestly think we put waaaay too much pressure on making it the “best day ever”. If we didn’t you two wouldn’t have had that fight, and you wouldn’t be obsessing over it to this day. I say, remember that you have a lot more “best days of your life” to plan and focus on, and let this go.

Post # 7
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7695 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2010

Its okay that you fought – couples do that- and it just so happened that you got into a fight the day before your wedding. Im sure it was a stressful weekend for you guys. I know that I was very stressed out and had so many things to do in the few days leading up to the wedding. The whole day of our rehearsal dinner was SO stressful and it was overwhelming. I actually didnt see my husband the majority of that day until we saw each other for our rehearsal. I definitely snapped at my mom at some point during that day and Im sure if my husband had been around there could have been a possibility of that.

The important thing is that you were able to talk through whatever was going on, move past it, and truly enjoy your wedding! That must mean that you are a strong and committed couple and a true testament to the strength of your marriage even so early on.

If it makes you feel better – right after our wedding we took a boat from our reception to the hotel. It was really dark and a storm was rolling in and we ended up getting lost. I was really scared and had a panic attack and started crying. Afterwards I felt ridiculous. I couldnt believe that I Had cried on my wedding day!! But looking back it was the first difficult thing we got through as a married couple. Im sure everyone has something similar to this – you have nothing to worry about and as time goes on, you will dwell on this less and less! Good luck πŸ™‚

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