Post # 1
I’m experiencing this right now and I hate it. Our wedding day on October 29th was quite honestly the happiest, most magical day of my life. I’ve never felt more elated, joyous and happy. I loved seeing our loved ones and friends all together to celebrate and nothing, I mean NOTHING went wrong. It was the most perfect day.
The day after our wedding, I was pretty emotional. Yes, I was tired as hell, but I couldn’t stop crying. Then we hit the honeymoon which was great and I would, at times, hit an emotional point that would bring tears to my eyes. And then, last night, I was feeling down again. Then I cried to my new husband.
In my mind, it’s like, you wait your entire life (38 yrs for me) for this day. You prepare, it consumes your life and it’s perfect and then BAM…it’s over. Never to be repeated again. This is what I think makes me so sad. I don’t know if I will ever experience the joy I felt on that day…ALL DAY LONG. I’m happy now but wow..it was awesome. And when again will all of our loved ones come together?
I hate feeling this way but I’m depressed. Is this normal? I was actually thinking about talking with someone…a therapist because I’m thinking this is not normal.
Any takers on this one?
Post # 3
I think it’s pretty normal to feel that way,since the wedding planning is so time consuming and so much worry is involved as well as decision making. I even feel that way every year after Christmas…like the anticipation is worth every bit of excitement I can muster and waiting to see people’s reactions to the gifts I’ve gotten them, and then whoosh! It’s all over again until the next year. Big difference with a wedding, since it’s supposed to be a one time event, but yours just happened. Give yourself time to unwind and slow down before jumping into therapy.
I believe you are perfectly normal. 🙂
Post # 4
I think it is normal to feel a little depressed for the reasons that you’ve stated and a lot of brides do feel depressed afterwards. It strikes me as similar to warnings I’ve heard from people in academia (my field) about finishing a PhD–that it should be this wonderful momentous thing, but there’s also the sort of “okay…now what?” aspect after it’s done and a lot of post PhDs DO experience depression. I think it’s probably like a lot of things in that respect–finishing a novel, sending your kid off to college etc. etc. To me, the best thing that you can do to combat this is to give yourself something else to look forward to–like starting up a hobby or taking a class in something you’re interested in or joining some sort of club, like book club, wine club, writing club, etc. etc. . Also, don’t isolate yourself–plan dinner parties, go see your friends. In other words, engage with life! It was certainly interesting enough before you got involved with centerpieces and cakes; it will certainly be interesting enough afterwards.
I’d cut yourself a little slack, since it’s only been about 10 days since. If you were still crying after a month or so, then I might be a little more worried. But I will say that there’s no shame in seeing a therapist–especially since most health care companies will cover it, and it might really help, even if this ultimately turns out to be a small emotional blip.
Post # 5
I’m a little afraid that this will happen to me (wedding is in September.)
I think it helps to talk to my many happily married friends about the way they remember their wedding, and put it in perspective. Even if it was PERFECT, you have a lifetime of joy to look forward to. Holidays, vacations, everyday fun, new family members, new experiences.
The love that surrounded you on your wedding day is still there, just not all at once – but it embraces you wherever you are in so many ways.
I have one friend who is an amazing family blogger. I aspire to be as good as she is at photographing all events and documenting them in a cute and funny way. She, of course, blogged her wedding, as well as all of our friends’ weddings and other special events. I think it makes us all feel like we can share in each others’ lives from far away. When I feel scared or sad or isolated, I try to reach out more and focus on others – plan fun events, do something for someone I love. The love you take is equal to the love you make!
Congratulations on your marriage!! And I don’t pretend to have this figured out…I’m just trying to prepare for feeling the way you do when my time comes. I’m sure it isn’t easy.
Post # 6
‘The love that surrounded you on your wedding day is still there, just not all at once – but it embraces you wherever you are in so many ways. ‘
Wow…what a wonderful sentence. And it’s so true. Thanks so much!!!
Post # 7
I think you just need to look at your wedding day as the best day of your life SO FAR. You still have so many things ahead of you, you just need to focus on the future and be grateful to have such wonderful memories from your wedding day.