Post wedding disappointment?

posted 3 months ago in Recaps
Post # 2
Member
500 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2017

I’m sure you’ll feel better when the sunburn is gone. 🙂  It’s very easy to be grumpy when you hurt!  And it’s easy to be scatterbrained when you hurt.  Hopefully your photographer can edit out the burns and you’ll feel better soon!

Post # 3
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4466 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

I would take this as a lesson learned that you can’t let your in laws demand things from you like they did in this situation.  You let them push you around and get their way, which could lead to a lifetime of misery if you don’t stand up for yourself.  You didn’t *have* to go sightseeing with them the day before your wedding.  The fact that they got their way indicates to me that this is going to be your future if you don’t stick up for yourself.

The sunburn, everything, isn’t what matters in this situation.  It’s amazing what people can do with Photoshop.  What matters is that you have in laws who demand to get their way and to prevent future issues, you need to start putting your foot down.

Post # 4
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516 posts
Busy bee

Agreed that you can take it as a lesson learned – you gave into your in-laws demands, and they still had nothing nice to say. Wouldn’t it have been better to just do what you wanted if they were going to be unpleasant anyway?

In a way, unpleasant people can be a bit of a relief, since there’s no need to try to impress someone who’s hellbent on complaining on everything. It’s unfortunate they steamrolled your wedding, but now’s as good a time as any to stop caring if you make them mad or disappointed. 

They come a day early? Tough luck, you have plans that you won’t change for them. And yes, ‘won’t’ rather than ‘can’t’ was intentional. 

They want to go sightseeing? Have fun, you’re doing other things. They think you’re a brat? Too bad. 

Post # 5
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1245 posts
Bumble bee

Oh noooo I would not have gone sightseeing!  (Sorry I know it’s too late now) but ew!  That’s really inconsiderate of them.  Ugh, thankfully, your wedding is just one day & you will have many “best days” to look forward to- except now you know to tell your in laws to kick rocks when they want to “demand” things!

Post # 6
Member
706 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

I’m sorry things didn’t go your way but they all sound minor. Sounds like you’re putting a lot of blame on your inlaws, when in actuality you allowed them to pressure you. You have to stand up for yourself. The sunburn is on you girl, 100% on you. Lesson learned for you and your new husband, you’ll have to learn to say no to them. When you have kids etc, this will be really important. 

Post # 7
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4357 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: February 1997

They wouldn’t “allow” you to leave to get sunscreen? Yeah, no. You didn’t stand up to them and do what was best for yourself.

But no one’s wedding day goes off without a hitch; there’s always something. Don’t dwell on those things. You are married to your life partner, and that trumps any disappointment about the wedding. Remember, the wedding is one day, but a marriage is for life. 

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