Post wedding, dressing BACK up, getting a mini shoot with missed family poses

posted 3 years ago in Photos/Videos
Post # 2
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

If your husband hates photos, why would you make him do a photo shoot for your anniversary?  It sounds like he’d be miserable all over again.

Post # 4
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Busy bee

I would do it sooner rather than later in your circumstance.

Post # 5
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Bumble Beekeeper

If you’re wanting to capture nice pictures with your immediate family, I’d rather have a formal non-wedding photo shoot. 

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

If you have the money and the time then I can’t see why not. It won’t remove those regretful feelings from the day though and it won’t resolve your poor communication with DH beforehand. If you feel strongly about something then don’t let it get brushed aside. One hour for other photography is a stupidly small amount of time.

Post # 7
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Busy bee

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planningwife311 :  I think it’s ridiculous honestly.  No one cares about your photos on Facebook except you. In a few years you will have one or two weddings photos on display and the missing ones from your list will be long forgotten.

If you really just want pics with your family why not schedule family photos that aren’t in your wedding attire and capture some new happy memories vs having photos you know are engineered to recreate a day that’s already passed? 

Post # 8
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Buzzing Beekeeper

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planningwife311 :  I think it’s kind of silly. Lots of people do silly things and there’s no harm in it, so do it if you want to but you did ask for opinions.

it really upsets me not to be able to post a photo of me and my mom on my wedding day to FB.”  — A new photo shoot won’t change this. They won’t be wedding photos. They’ll be pictures of that day you all got dressed up again. What if you go through all this trouble and still aren’t happy because you still don’t have those pictures, and now on top of it, you had everyone get all dressed up again and now you feel silly? Are there no photos that you could crop if you really want one of just the 2 of you? I eloped. I don’t have any wedding photos at all. It’s a bummer but not a tragedy. I hope you end up feeling better, whatever you choose.

Post # 9
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 1997

I have to agree that the wedding photos you don’t have will be long forgotten within a few years. Schedule a photo shoot with your family in normal clothes – THAT would be a good idea. But to play dress-up and pretend to take wedding photos when you and everyone else involved will know they aren’t? And when you look at them later, you will always know they aren’t from the wedding. Why pretend? You can’t fool yourself. The photos of the people precious to you are what matter, so have the pictures taken now. They will be far more genuine in regular clothes than them (and you) trying to recreate what they wore the day of you wedding.

Post # 10
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2016

I did this the day after the wedding when we realized we didnt’ get a photo with my extended family… but it was easier then since we all just put on our dirty clothing for 10 minutes to take a couple photos.

Post # 11
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

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planningwife311 :  dressing up in your wedding attire with everyone but the groom makes no sense.

thee is nothing wrong with having a family photo shoot and dressing for the occasion, but a do-over wedding photo shoot seems a bit indulgent and attention-seeky.

Post # 12
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Buzzing Beekeeper

If my sibling/best friend/child asked me to get all dressed up again like I did on their wedding to take photos that were their own fault for missing I would probably do it but I would not be happy and be totally judging them and would rethink being involved in events like this for them in the future (like christening etc).

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

I would not do this, but I don’t see any reason why you shouldn’t if it will make you feel better.  However, may I suggest instead to hire a photographer to create new authentic moments for your family?  Maybe get some photos on a boat ride or a hike or chopping down a christmas tree or baking a pie or whatever?  Or… does your mom still have her wedding dress?  Maybe you could do a mother/daughter shoot with both of you in your dresses, or even you wearing her dress?  Something new, so it is not a false recreation of your wedding?

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