Post # 1
Hi! I am just writing to see if anyone has ever heard of or even done this before. 2 days before our wedding day, me and my DH got into a huge argument about photos. He thought 1 hour for family photos was way too much for couples and family photos (we only did a 4 hour package because he HATES pictures) so it was from the start of the ceremony to the end of the reception. I thought an hour was even crunched to get all of the bridesmaid, individual, couples family etc. Photos. But we were walking on eggshells up until the wedding day which I regret…So on wedding day he seemed miserable taking photos because he wanted to enjoy more time with family and friends, and I just wamted us to n9t be in disagreemebt so I rushed the family photos and kept telling the photographer “You know what, lets just not go by the list we don’t need them all” and just got photos with whoever was around us (we also opulent find anyone because the venue was open indoors and some people were outdoors). It was just an impulsive attempt to enjoy the day with him puttong disagreements aside and I REGRET it so much. Didnt get a photo with my mom alone, my BRIDESMAID, my Mother-In-Law, etc. I also really regret wearing my hair up LOL. We had an amazzzing pro photog. and it really upsets me not to be able to post a photo of me and my mom on my wedding day to FB. They are also older and I just want to treasure those photos. I have tried to put it past me so long since the wedding but I just can’t shake it and how sad it makes me.
I am considering (I guess on our anniversary, wedding was in March) getting a slot for the photogs mini shoots she does and getting back in the wedding dress, wearing hair down, my sister (Only BM) and mom l/dad getting back in their outfit and us getting the family photos we didn’t get on wedding day. Has anyone even heard of this before, is it silly? Is it right to ask the photog. This?
Just looking for people’s opinions. Should I try to put it past me or suck up the money for something like This?
Thanks so much!
Post # 2
If your husband hates photos, why would you make him do a photo shoot for your anniversary? It sounds like he’d be miserable all over again.
Post # 3
Not with him if he doesn’t want to, more of shots of me and immediate family that we did not get at the wedding. But I would feel bad if he wasn’t there for them. Thats why I’m unsure if it is a good idea or unheard of…if I should make up for lost photos in a silly way or just work on letting this go. My dad is having heart failure and he is older, so im debating this or just doing a regular photo shoot with them. Still would have liked some on our wedding day. He actually got all of the photos of him and family on wedding day, but I rushed it when it came to my family by impulse. He was getting impatient and I just didn’t want us to be walking on eggshells and was just rushing, so it’s really my fault they did not happen and I feel terrible about it.
Post # 4
I would do it sooner rather than later in your circumstance.
Post # 5
If you’re wanting to capture nice pictures with your immediate family, I’d rather have a formal non-wedding photo shoot.
Post # 6
If you have the money and the time then I can’t see why not. It won’t remove those regretful feelings from the day though and it won’t resolve your poor communication with DH beforehand. If you feel strongly about something then don’t let it get brushed aside. One hour for other photography is a stupidly small amount of time.
Post # 7
I think it’s ridiculous honestly. No one cares about your photos on Facebook except you. In a few years you will have one or two weddings photos on display and the missing ones from your list will be long forgotten.
If you really just want pics with your family why not schedule family photos that aren’t in your wedding attire and capture some new happy memories vs having photos you know are engineered to recreate a day that’s already passed?
Post # 8
I think it’s kind of silly. Lots of people do silly things and there’s no harm in it, so do it if you want to but you did ask for opinions.
“it really upsets me not to be able to post a photo of me and my mom on my wedding day to FB.” — A new photo shoot won’t change this. They won’t be wedding photos. They’ll be pictures of that day you all got dressed up again. What if you go through all this trouble and still aren’t happy because you still don’t have those pictures, and now on top of it, you had everyone get all dressed up again and now you feel silly? Are there no photos that you could crop if you really want one of just the 2 of you? I eloped. I don’t have any wedding photos at all. It’s a bummer but not a tragedy. I hope you end up feeling better, whatever you choose.
Post # 9
I have to agree that the wedding photos you don’t have will be long forgotten within a few years. Schedule a photo shoot with your family in normal clothes – THAT would be a good idea. But to play dress-up and pretend to take wedding photos when you and everyone else involved will know they aren’t? And when you look at them later, you will always know they aren’t from the wedding. Why pretend? You can’t fool yourself. The photos of the people precious to you are what matter, so have the pictures taken now. They will be far more genuine in regular clothes than them (and you) trying to recreate what they wore the day of you wedding.
Post # 10
I did this the day after the wedding when we realized we didnt’ get a photo with my extended family… but it was easier then since we all just put on our dirty clothing for 10 minutes to take a couple photos.
Post # 11
dressing up in your wedding attire with everyone but the groom makes no sense.
thee is nothing wrong with having a family photo shoot and dressing for the occasion, but a do-over wedding photo shoot seems a bit indulgent and attention-seeky.
Post # 12
If my sibling/best friend/child asked me to get all dressed up again like I did on their wedding to take photos that were their own fault for missing I would probably do it but I would not be happy and be totally judging them and would rethink being involved in events like this for them in the future (like christening etc).
Post # 13
I would not do this, but I don’t see any reason why you shouldn’t if it will make you feel better. However, may I suggest instead to hire a photographer to create new authentic moments for your family? Maybe get some photos on a boat ride or a hike or chopping down a christmas tree or baking a pie or whatever? Or… does your mom still have her wedding dress? Maybe you could do a mother/daughter shoot with both of you in your dresses, or even you wearing her dress? Something new, so it is not a false recreation of your wedding?