Post # 1
Despite the title of this post, I am LOVING married life. We are finally living together and with no wedding planning, our time together has been so great. But, I can’t help but feel lonely. A huge part of this is because I just moved where my husband lives a month before the wedding, and I don’t have any close friends yet. Also, because I have lived here in the past (college) I associate this town with all my friends and all our good times, which makes it feel extra empty without them.
Here’s my real question though: Did you feel like people pulled away from you some after the wedding? It seems like some of best friends and family don’t call, etc. like they did before the wedding or engagement. Do you think there’s a tendancy for people to pull away from you right after your wedding to “give you space” or let you “enjoy being newlyweds?” Does/did anyone else feel suddenly alone, except for your husband’s companionship?
Thankfully, the hubs is fantastic, and we legitimately enjoy hanging out and living life together, but it just seems like everyone else disappeared. <Insert pity party.>
Post # 3
I hear you.
Being married is great but where did my friends and family go. Since we have got home from our wedding I have barely heard from anyone or seen anyone.
You must be right that they are givng the newlyweds some space, but to go from constant emails and phone calls to almost nothing is kind of strange.
Guess we have to have something exciting going on for them to want to talk to us?
Post # 4
I’m kinda expecting this to happen to us. When people find out we’re engaged they magically want to get more involved in our lives. People who were previously just acquaintances want to be friends, and people who were friends want to be best friends. My step-mom, who I used to talk to about once a month, now wants to talk to me every other day. (I complained about her in another post- she’s trying to take over the mother-of-the-bride role).
I’d like to think there’s no conscious relation, and maybe it’s a bunch of coincidences or they are just genuinely interested in hearing our wedding plans. I really hope people aren’t just trying to increase their chances of being invited, or of having a bigger role in the wedding.
Now that you’re married, do you think people talk to you as much as they did before you got engaged, or do they seem more distant than ever because they’re ‘giving you space’?
Post # 5
I think the first couple weeks people were extra distant. It is probably the mindset that they are newly married and they need their space. But now that it has been three weeks things are going back to closer to before we were engaged.
I guess that we need to have new things to talk about since there is no wedding planning happening. I’m sure things will go back to normal, at least I hope so.