Post # 1
Has anyone experienced this? The last few months after getting married I’ve seen the number on the scale slowly but steadlily increase. I’m now 10 more pounds heavier than I was in August 🙁 Marriage has brought a number of life changes, including the stress of moving/adjusting to a new city, setting up a new apartment from scratch, adjusting to living with someone, cooking more elaborate meals, eating out more, job searching, starting a new job, and starting a new, longer, car-based reverse commute (as opposed to walking, but even that was 6 months ago).
I don’t exercise much, but I didn’t before either, so I’m thinking that can’t really be the culprit since that hasn’t changed? I wasn’t dieting or anything before the wedding and I’m not pregnant either. Did anyone else experience weight gain as newlyweds? I keep seeing a 2012 study citing that newlyweds gain 25-20 pounds in the five years after marriage :-0. So apparently this is common…?
Fall holiday season could also have something to do with it – Our October/November has gone back to back with Halloween -> my birthday -> major ethnic/religious/cultural holiday (Diwali) -> Thanksgiving.
Post # 2
I think it’s more the other changes you mentioned than the marriage itself. When I moved in with my SO and changed jobs, etc, I gained weight as well. It took me a while to adjust and be able to lose weight. Getting into a new routine can be hard! My SO is the type who can eat anything and not gain a pound, so it was really difficult for me to adjust to being in a house with all of the tempting foods around (I only kept healthy foods in the house when i lived alone, except occasional treats). Good luck!
Post # 3
I have! We were married in early October and I’ve gained about 8 lbs. Starting with the wedding weekend I didn’t hold back on any food or drink, and that continued through the honeymoon, and the first few weeks back. I’m now back on my exercise regimen, but of course struggling with eating because of the season and all of the delicious treats that abound. I’ll be happy if I maintain this 8 lb gain through NYE and then drop it all in January when life goes back to “normal.” *I also always gain weight during the holidays because we have so many social events going on, so maybe I’m not helpful.
Post # 4
glutton : I hope your username didn’t come from a negative self image!! 🙁
We definitely are in the middle of what I like to call Eating Season (Football or Halloween through Easter). It lasts half a year and you are constantly fronted with all of these temptations to eat more sweets, fats and salts and if you are in the northern hemisphere, you aren’t spending a lot of time outside right now.
What are your lifestyles? Are you working a sedentary 9-5 desk job and heading home to chill on the couch with some junk food? That is where hubby and I are and he mentioned that he is gaining weight (he is doing it on purpose though). Do the two of you have active hobbies in common? Something as simple as taking a walk in your neighborhood or a cheap ballroom dance lesson will get you off the couch and away from the snacks for an evening.
Marriage does not cause weight gain. Weight gain is caused by the combination of your activity levels and what you are consuming (along with other possible illnesses).
Post # 5
glutton : Did anyone else experience weight gain as newlyweds? I keep seeing a 2012 study citing that newlyweds gain 25-20 pounds in the five years after marriage :-0. So apparently this is common…?
I wouldn’t say all newlyweds do this. I guess it depends on the sort of person you are, many people try hard to maintain their looks, health and fitness while they are dating and allow that to slip once they are married. Either way marriage isn’t the cause of weight gain so if your weight gain bothers you then you need to look at your eating habits and make some changes.
My wedding isn’t until May but there is no reason I would gain weight after the wedding. SO and I will have been together 9.5 years, living together for 4plus years.
Maybe your wedding has just coincided with the “comfortable stage” in your relationship?
Post # 6
I lost a bit of weight before the wedding (motivation!), but now a year+ later I’ve gained a lot back 🙁 It was easy for me to eat well and workout when I had something to do it for, now I’m back to my lazy old self haha.
Post # 7
I eat well and work out for my own health, mood, self-image, stress-levels, etc. So no, getting married 5 months ago hasn’t caused any weight gain.
If you’re having problems self-motivating in the area of your health, maybe read some self-help books in that area? Having the info forefront in my mind helps me.
Post # 8
glutton : it’s totally normal for your weight t o fluctuate 10-15 lbs up and down throughout different phases of life and times of the year. I wouldn’t get too worked up about it at all. Obviously, you want to try to be healthy so if you feel like you are out of shape and it’s affecting your health you should do something about it. Otherwise, just try to settle into a routine that centres on fairly good habits.
I gained a bit of weight when I first moved in with my fiance (boyfriend at the time) due to going from walking to and from work every day (30 minutes each way) to commuting by car as well as living with someone who keeps junkfood in the house (I have no self control so when I was on my own I just didn’t keep tempting junk food in my apartment).
Eventually you will get used to your new home and lifestyle. You may need to make some adjustments here and there to find a comfortable and healthy routine. If you used to walk to work and now you drive, then I would definitely recommend you add some kind of physical activity into your daily or at least weekly routine to make up for that. And when it comes to meals, try to craft meals that are 75-80% vegetables and only a small portion of meat or grains. Going out to eat less is a big one too – even healthy sounding meals in restaurants are often well over 1,000 calories! That’s not even adding the fact that usually a meal out also includes an alcoholic drink or two or a soda.
Post # 9
When my SO and I moved in together I gained weight. Probably about twenty pounds. I’ll freely admit that I’ve never been an overly active person but the physical nature of my jobs has kept me at a constant weight that I was happy with but even that couldn’t go up against his eating habits.
I found myself eating so much more with him, especially when he cooks because he fixes “manly” sized portions and then he thinks I don’t like it if I don’t finish so it was just easier to eat it than argue. I also started drinking soda again after two or three years of having a Cheerwine only once a month because it was in the house all the time because he drank them.
Luckily I got out of that, stopped sodas again and we had a discussion about his portion size as someone who is six feet tall vs my portion size at five three. (I also recently switched jobs to an even more physical job than before so I’m slowly climbing out of the hole I dug for myself.)
I think the biggest thing is to not change your habits just because you’re in a relationship/living with someone.
Post # 10
Yep! Two years before marriage I had started a weight loss journey culminating in losing 15 pounds. I was happy and my self esteem was great. I think that confidence is part of what initially caught DH’s eye. After getting married, I gained about 5-10 pounds. Lost most of that weight before attending a wedding that was two months after mine, in December.
All this year I’ve struggled. It got to the point where I gained back the full 15 pounds I’d lost 3 years ago. I was devastated. I’ve read studies that show that happily married couples gain weight after the wedding, but I didn’t want to let that win. I also had other circumstances, such as getting sick with mono and gaining weight from that, and then having oral surgery, where I could only eat mushy and soft foods, which are mostly carbs and sugar (lots of shakes and smoothies for my sore mouth).
I weighed myself this past Tuesday, and I’m down 9.5 pounds, with 5.5 left to get back to my ideal weight. It took being really strict, knowing that I didn’t want to continue the weight gain, and not fully enjoying Thanksgiving, but I know it’s worth it. Plus, once you see progress, it’s easier to be strong.
Weight gain after marriage is totally a thing!
Post # 11
As some other PPs mentioned, I don’t think it’s marriage that caused the weight gain as much as it is the other factors and life changes that you mentioned. I’m not married yet, but within the past year I’ve also been through some of the same life changes as you — moving in together and adjusting to living together, setting up the apartment from scratch, cooking more elaborate meals (at first we were trying to impress each other with our cooking skills lol), switching jobs, having a much longer commute, plus in my case I had some health problems for a couple months which have been resolved but made it difficult to exercise for awhile at a time when a lot of other factors were already interfering with getting my exercise in — and I gained some weight as a result.
I think it’s pretty common for newlyweds (or also couples newly living together) to experience some weight gain as you shift your lifestyle to accommodate your partner more. But that doesn’t mean that you’re doomed to gain weight and that you can’t lose it. You only have 10 pounds to lose, which isn’t a crazy amount, so by just changing around some of your habits and adjusting your routine, you should be able to get there pretty easily. A few weeks ago, my fiance and I finally made some switches and found a routine that works better for us, so now I’m able to exercise regularly like I used to. I’m also making an effort to add more fruits and vegetables into our diet and drink more water, which are things I used to be really good about, but had let slide. It’s only been a couple weeks and I’m already down a couple pounds. Weight fluctuations are normal as you go through different life changes, so as long as you don’t let it get out of control you’ll be fine!
Post # 12
Not married yet but my fiancé and I both gained weight after getting together. We were both so happy and comfortable that it just kinda happened. It’s pretty common.
Post # 13
Yes! I hear it’s very common. I gained a few here and there when I started dating my now husband, and a few more after our first year in marriage. We are approaching year 2, and I’m hoping the gaining will stop here! I’ve gained a total of 15lbs since we met- but I was also a tad underweight when we met.
My friends who got married the same year as me both gained 15 and 20 lbs respectively. My coworker’s son also gained a bunch, and she calls it ‘love pounds’! Just being happy, and nesting, and content with being married to your significant other!
Post # 14
- Wedding: August 2017 - Orange County, CA
I have gained over 20 lbs in the 15 months that I have been married. This is the heaviest I’ve ever been in my life and it’s really taking a toll on my self-esteem. I am currently wrapping up work on a master’s program as well, and the late nights writing papers has wreaked havoc on my eating habits! Why can’t I wake up at 2am and eat three hotdogs anymore like when I was 25?!?
Post # 15
I gained 15-20 pounds since getting married. But I was super tiny, gaunt, barely ate. I wear a size 2/4 now and feel much healthier.