Post # 1
We are two weeks post wedding, and my bank account is still suffering. Husband and I fronted about 90% of the cost ourselves… and unfortunately had to put some on credit cards because of it (i.e. honeymoon). We are desperately trying to pay that down, along with hoping to start looking at buying a house after the new year.
Because of all this cost, and having to take 4 days unpaid vacation for the honeymoon (I’m a teacher), money is stretched.
I have no regrets about the money we spent towards the wedding… which in the grand scheme of things, wasn’t even extravagant. The wedding was everything I hoped for, and everyone had a great time (even without the all-night open bar… take that!). I just hate feeling like I have to ‘catch up’ now with my bank account.
Does anyone else feel this way?
Post # 3
I’m sure I will feel this way. I moved in with my fiance a year ago and he pays the household bills and I am paying for the wedding….so we don’t have to put things on credit BUT it is preventing us from putting any money aside. To top it off I’ll be starting grad school fall 2011 (God willing) so extra money will go towards school expenses. I am just trying to keep things in perspective and realize that eventually we’ll get to where we want to be and you will too.
Post # 4
I’m feeling it for sure, but not the post wedding proverty. I’m feeling post-home proverty. We cleared out for the down and closing and all that junk, then under estimated how much some repairs and things we needed to buy would be. We’re definiately watching the spending and have been cutting it real close.
Post # 5
The title of this post scares me! I hope we will be able to pull it all together before our wedding. Money will be tight though….no doubt (both during the planning and after the wedding)!
Post # 6
Nope! But then again, the wedding cost less than 5K…
Post # 7
I know I’m going to feel this same way too, but I know it will be worth it. We haven’t had to put anything on credit cards, but this is the first time in my life that I am waiting for another paycheck.
Post # 8
My fi and I are working on saving enough to pay for the wedding and have a nice sum saved up after because I have a huge fear of post-wedding poverty.
Post # 9
I really wanted to have an earlier wedding but my Fiance and i sat down and decided that we wanted everything paid off before the wedding so we pushed the date back to Nov 2012. But you say the wedding wasnt too extravagant so im sure you guys will catch up soon 🙂
Post # 10
We are certainly there. We knew this was going to be the case and we stopped stressing about it and just went for it. Granted, it wasn’t the smartest thing, but definately worth it!
Post # 11
That is why our economy is the way it is everyone thinks they can just pay everything off with a credit card when there the most damaging thing to do to yourself
i’m not saying this to attack you but to warn others who are just lerking the site so please dont take this offensive and i’m not going to lie we are putting a lot of money into our wedding too
but for starters we will not be buying a house right after we wed and will not go on a honey moon till next year when we can afford a nice over seas honey moon.
we have $6,000 more to pay in the next 67 days and everything wedding related will be paid off, we will not have open bar neither.
and we’re paying everything off ourselfs except for a generous gift his parents gave us ($2,000)
we have been paying for our wedding a little bit before being engaged becasue we knew it would be a lot
Post # 12
I think this will be the case for me and my FH. We are paying for about 90% of the wedding on our own and there has been some ups and downs with my FH’s job situation. We are putting the honeymoon on a credit card, but already have a plan in place for paying it off. It isn’t something to make a habit of, but getting married is a once in a lifetime thing.
Post # 13
I’m suffering from post holiday parties. Traveling, gifts, and taking off work hit me hard. Needless to say I am holding my breath until I get paid tomorrow!
Post # 14
@LeahP: Ugh I feel you! Plus charitable contributions that I made at the end of the year kinda did me in. I had to borrow from my house fund to get eveything in order and not feel like Bank of America was gonna charge me an overdraft fee. lol. What sucks is (and not really) we got paid 3 times in December so my next pay check isn’t coming for another week.
Post # 15
Hang in there!
By the time we got married we had completely drained all of our accounts and then had to use all of our wedding money to pay off credit card debts between the house and the wedding.
It’s now four months later and I can happily say that are really starting to recover. Spending is tight but we are enjoying movie nights and cooking dinner together as newlyweds. Try to do activities that don’t cost much money and you can build your marriage at the same time.