(Closed) Post-wedding reception for guests not invited to the DW

posted 8 years ago in Destination Weddings
  • poll: If your friend had a DW and you weren't invited- what do you think would rather do/have
    Still want to go to a casual post-wed reception when they get back (they tell you dont bring gifts) : (11 votes)
    69 %
    No follow-up, you weren't invited to the wedding, there's no point in having a post-wedding thing : (5 votes)
    31 %
    Other? : (0 votes)
  • Post # 3
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    3219 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: November 2010

    We are having one but ours is as formal as any normal reception. We are also only having 8 people at our Destination Wedding.

    Post # 4
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    3176 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    I wasn’t too into the idea at first, but my mom really wanted to do something super casual and fun for everyone. She mentioned it to a lot of people and they were all for it. Most of our friends and family friends wouldn’t be able to attend our real wedding anyway due to cost so its nice that we can celebrate with them. Also there are a lot of people I know will give us a present even without being invited so I think its nice that we would be doing something for them.

    Post # 6
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    2640 posts
    Sugar bee

    @lulu mae:  I hear ya.  I think I would be in the same predicament as you if I had a Destination Wedding.

    I will say, I really haven’t been involved with a Destination Wedding.  Didn’t have one, never been invited to one, never had an invitation to a post Destination Wedding reception.  But I would be hesitant to have one for fear of the guests feeling like I was just trying to get more gifts or attention. 

    I guess in a way I see it as you have the wedding that’s most meaningful to you.  (Either it means more to celebrate with family and friends, or have a Destination Wedding in an amazing location with a much smaller party.)  But having both doesn’t sit well with me.  Kind of like having your cake and eating it too….

    Post # 7
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    6 posts
    Newbee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    We are planning to do a small ceremony where we live (just parents and siblings) and then have an open house type reception in each of our hometowns. My grandparents don’t fly anymore so we didn’t want to have a large ceremony they couldn’t attend and a small ceremony is more our style.

    We don’t want to leave anyone out so we are planning to invite the rest of our family and friends to the open house parties. We are planning to have them at our parents’ houses with a backyard BBQ feel – probably no actual meal served but lots of appetizers, beer, wine, and cake. I’m planning to wear my dress so my grandma can see me in it and to get more for the money 🙂

    It’s your wedding. Do what you want. If you are really worried about gifts, just put the word out through your family that you don’t want them and/or suggest a meaningful charity that people could donate to instead.

    Post # 9
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    2640 posts
    Sugar bee

    My only suggestion would be, if some firends are really asking for something, could you have a small dinner (maybe a restaurant tha has a private dining room) for your group of friends?

    Have you gotten any feedback from the family members not going?  I guess if people really do feel like they want a reception, then it would appear you don’t have to worry about your guests feeling like you just want more gifts.  (But you know how I’d vote as a guest.)

    Post # 11
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    191 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    My sister had a Destination Wedding in Puerto Rico and about a month after we had an awesome cocktail reception at my Aunts House.  I think its a great idea bc you still want to celebrate your wedding/marriage with family and friends.  We splurged on a bartender and we had it catered. Everyone had an awesome time. Its not about presents.  My sister even registerd at Bed Bath and i didnt hear any complaints. Invite everyone you want!

    Post # 12
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    191 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: July 2011
    Post # 12
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    191 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

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