Post wedding regret/anxiety-HELP

posted 2 years ago in Emotional
Post # 2
1424 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2017

I felt the exact same way. My reception was a crazy, unorganized mess and I honestly didn’t even enjoy it. But it’s over and not much you can do after the fact. Not everyone has a perfect wedding day unfortunately-but you get over it pretty quickly as you start to go on with life and the wedding isn’t so much on your mind. But regardless, you looked gorgeous and your pics are beautiful! Congrats.

Post # 3
267 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: St. petersburg, FL

Bee – I don’t know how to say this nicely, but you are worrying over NOTHING, even if it wasn’t 100% what you thought it was going to be/look like.

You looked absolutely fabulous in those pictures, and from your description (boho, flower crown, relaxed wavy hair) you really got your look down, and your dress is gorgeous on you.

Also… you look genuinely happy, so focus on that! Your pictures are great, and you look great in the photos, too. A wedding day that was calm, happy, and everything went off without a hitch? I’d call that a success on all fronts.

Post # 5
34 posts
  • Wedding: May 2019

For what it’s worth, I think you’ve got a beautiful boho vibe going on with the dress, flower crown, and very loose waves. It looks genuine, like you aren’t just trying hard to portray the ‘perfect’ boho look.

Post # 6
1380 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2018

Omg I would kill to look like you-take a seat-I mean this in the nicest way! You look stunning and perfectly captured the boho look,nothing to worry about! ๐Ÿ˜Š

Post # 7
1152 posts
Bumble bee

lolakate88 :  your pictures look like they could be in a magazine! Stunning. 

Post # 8
98 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: April 2018

I love your dress and crown. You look boho to me. My wedding is in April and I feel like even after I will be wishing I did something different. I over analyze everything. 

Post # 9
3840 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2017

You look gorgeous

Post # 10
211 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2018

Your photos look exactly the way you described that you wanted them to look and you pulled it off and look stunning! 

Post # 11
77 posts
Worker bee

If i had just seen your photos, i woild absolutely see a beautiful boho chic bride who oooks beautiful and happy and clearly has a husband who feels the same. I guarantee no one thought your dress/veil/hair or pics were or are rubbish. I think you’ll look back on these photos when you’re 80 and think, “damn that was a fun day and I look fine as hell”. 

Post # 12
37 posts

lolakate88 :  I feel your pain and I literally just posted my own thread about feeling this way. 

I tried to lower stress but saying “that will do” “less is more” and just basically that if I just have a nice hairstyle that will be enough. Now I agonise that I should have put more effort into that among other things.

i didn’t give my mother enough air time. I have a few nice photos with her but I wasn’t thinking enough about that, which is so important, but on the day you don’t realise during the chaos, nerves and excitement. I’ve even pondered the idea of a reshoot just for her, but she’s probably not as paranoid about it as I am…

Post # 13
587 posts
Busy bee

My hair fell a bit flat pretty soon after my ceremony too. I don’t mind at all, the point was getting married not having my hair 100% perfect. It still looked nice. Honestly the day of I stopped worrying about little things. Husbands boutanneire broke, didn’t care, tossed it aside. Moved on. Life’s too short to worry about this stuff. You looked great, you got married THATS what matters. 

Post # 14
58 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: City, State

your pictures blew me away, so gorgeous and y’all are one good looking couple. but I feel the same way myself. I rushed into a dress and feel like it didn’t represent me and I’m so regretful ugh!

Post # 15
8263 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

lolakate88 : 

The only thing you have said that is remotely right is that  your hair is straight rather than wavy . No one on earth would  know this was not what  you wanted ,except  you . As for the rest , it looks exactly as you described  you wanted, and is perfectly beautiful .

You are fretting and agonising over absolutely  nothing OP . Stop feeding  your anxiety and lack  of confidence with this  stuff. A feeling of anticlimax is as normal as anything , don’t make it worse by a tortuous  self examination of the  minutiae of how you imagine you looked.

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